Energy Vampires! What Are They & How Can We Protect Ourselves?

How to protect yourself from energy vampires

How to protect yourself from energy vampires

 

When people hear the word vampire, they think of Mary Shelly and her wild and haunting stories. There’s gore and darkness and a lot of really bad make-up! 

Truth be told, real vampires don’t go around drinking blood directly out of the spout, they sit across the table from you, look deep into your eyes, and drain the life out of you. Ehem, I mean, they draw energy from your vibration, potentially depleting your emotional and spiritual gold.

These sad folks are sometimes called “Emotional Vampires” or Narcissists. Make no mistake about it, attempting to have reciprocal relationships with these people can take a toll on your life, especially if you are unaware of the dynamics at play. 

 

You probably already know a Vampire.

According to Judith Orloff M.D., a practicing Psychologist in L.A., “… the biggest energy drain on my patients is relationships. Some relationships are positive and mood-elevating. Others can suck optimism and serenity right out of you.” 

Humans are social creatures. We love to hug, gather, and chit-chat. With the hope of another person filling our little gaps, we open ourselves up upon every chance at intimacy. We work together in large groups, meet for dinner and drinks, and immerse ourselves in complex family constructs. In the midst of it all, each of us is most certainly engaging or nurturing a vampire. Energy vampires can even be a spouse.

Has anybody you know repeatedly failed to deliver on promises? 

Have they made excuses and guilted you into doing their work for them? 

Maybe they only want to spend time with you when it’s convenient for them? 

In your moment of need, do they disappear?

When connecting with you, are they obsessed with their own needs and challenges? 

Is it all drama, all day, every day?

All of these folks might be feeding off of your goodwill and kindness. They might be draining you of energy better spent on yourself. After cleaning up after them, driving them places, making excuses for them, putting up with their diversions, and trying not to crack under their pressure, you might need a month of detox!

These relationships are toxic for sure – and if not properly managed, they could feed off you to the point of absolute devastation. 

Be careful, set boundaries, don’t take on their karma, and continually check-in with yourself to make sure you’re not giving up energy that you don’t have.

Be On The Lookout For These Things

Specifics change from vampire to vampire, but they all have a few key characteristics. 

Energy vampires and narcissists:

  •   Tend to be very charismatic and engaging 
  •   Continually draw attention to themselves
  •   Lack empathy 
  •   Lack an understanding reciprocity, balance, and being “other-focused”
  •   Appear extremely needy and lazy
  •   Talk a good game but rarely act
  •   Find it difficult to change their behavior 
  •   Manipulate others to do everything for them
  •   Rarely own their bad behavior – except when we threaten to leave them

Getting other people to do all the work is easier when you’re a smooth talker. It also helps when you’re able to project confidence and enthusiasm. Energy vampires might boast that they are extroverts, but they’re most often desperate at a core level.  

Some of them spend an unusual amount of time focused on their own appearance. They might have the perfect excuses for how they spend their time and money on things that are obviously not prudent, mature, or good for them. They might say that their recreational drugs help them sleep or feel less anxious. 

Everything a vampire does is about filling the sad, bottomless holes within them.

One of my former narcissist, celebrity clients could not help but make a villain out of everybody in her life, including her husband, sisters, nanny, chef – you name it. She had no sense of who she was because she continually devoured the people in her life. She could not understand how every person in her life had value. She made each of them out to be a villain. 

Additionally, she could barely own, declare, and defend her opinions, which changed like the wind, let alone her challenges, shortcomings, and massive, misguided ego. It was sad to watch. 

My ideas for this sad soul were all about being more productive, fulfilling her agreements, renegotiating her relationships, and improving the structure in her personal and professional lives. Yet, all of these ideas became thorns for her. She simply could not fathom the idea of hard work, especially when it came to working on herself. Everything was EVERYBODY else’s fault. 

This is classic narcissism. This type of person does not want real relationships in her life, she wants every person in her life to validate her every whim, glance, thought, and incongruence. She would grimace at the thought of having to reflect upon herself. She found it exhausting. 

While many of these vampires are outgoing, silver-tongued, and maybe even sexy, some spend time in the background, appearing unassuming and quiet. This is only part of their engagement patterns. They’ll perch and await the right moment to play the victim card. When they do, look out! This is when all hell breaks loose. 

As they shout and freak out about all of their assumptions, projections, stress, and delusions, they find culprits for every aspect of their self-created pain. They NEVER look in the mirror and say, “I chose these experiences. How can I honor them and then improve upon myself?” This concept would never dawn on a narcissist. 

They’ll always find an excuse or response along the lines of “You might have it slightly bad in your life at times, but I have it way worse. Here are 10 contrived examples born from my self-aggrandized ego.”

These fascinating embodiments of Eternal Black Holes will complain about money, health, their car, or a broken fingernail – anything to refocus attention back on them. If the conversation is aimed at anything other than their vanity, their overactive minds will be hard at work looking for the bridge that takes the conversation back to them. 

If you’re speaking, chances are they are not listening. Their primary focus at that point is to mentally perseverate on what they could say next so that the attention returns to them.  

The Energy Vampires in your life may appear to be completely unique, with their own styles and attitudes. They might appear to be different on the surface, but don’t be fooled. Make no mistake about it, all Energy Vampires will eventually seek to slowly chip away at your happiness, well-being, and life-force. They can’t help themselves. 

 

3 Ways to Protect yourself from Vampires

Unfortunately, garlic and wooden stakes are not very effective against vampires and other types of narcissists. In most situations, these pathetic users and abusers are parents, children, friends, spouses, or coworkers. If they’re too entrenched in your life, it can be almost impossible to remove them or set clear boundaries with them. That said, if you’re careful, thoughtful, and consistent about it, you can learn to coexist with and sometimes completely eradicate vampires. 

 

1. Remove The Vampires From Your Life

If you are constantly burdened with the drama of another person, it can cause unnecessary stress, and affect everything from sleep to health. You’ve continually tried to serve them, sometimes with the grace and patience of a living saint. You’ve felt stressed, burdened, angry, sad, and sometimes completely drained of energy. 

You’ve stayed on the phone with them for hours listening to their complaints. You’ve given everything you can and they still ask for more. In these cases, you have no choice but to release them from your life. 

The key here is to remember that these people tend to be unaware of the pain they’ve caused you. Even if you’ve told them time and time again, chances are they will be unable to hear you. They simply cannot listen to feedback. 

Even when you say goodbye, their responses will be something like, “Why are you doing this to me?” Or “I can’t believe you don’t care about me!” When you don’t answer their texts and calls, they send you guilt-ridden messages that make them sound like you shot them in the head and stole their legs.  

It’s time to say buh-bye. You don’t have to create a major in-person event to get this done. All you have to do is calmly tell them how busy you are, and then slowly exit the relationship. Think of it as titrating off of drugs. You are a drug to them. To help them withdraw, you need to show some tough love – most importantly tough love for yourself. Say goodbye and move on.

The good news is that most of these people will immediately find another person to engage and manipulate. They’ll start texting these new punching bags late at night and eventually hook one of them. At that point, you’re 100% off the hook and clear of their toxic debris! 

GOOD ON YA, MATE! Stay positive and keep moving forward! And never let them back into your life.

 

2. Manage The Time You Spend With Narcissists

Coworkers, family members, and old friends can be tricky to remove, and it might be far more work to remove them than simply manage your time with them. By setting schedules with them, ones that serve your happiness, you can improve your energy levels and emotional stress. 

Because Energy and Emotional vampires often lack empathy, you’ll need to be clear, direct, and consistent. Subtle hints are usually deflected, ignored, or seen as thin, permeable, and changeable boundaries. 

If you’re hankerin’ for less time with your narcissist or vampire, here are a few things you can say to them:

  •   I’m working on an all-consuming project, back to you in a few weeks. Sorry.
  •   I’m needing some time along, you know me, always moving too fast. Need some me-time. Thanks for understanding. 
  •   Doc just told me if I don’t stop texting at night, I’ll never relax enough to actually sleep. 
  •   I need some space because I’m exhausted and need to revamp my priorities. 
  •   My husband/wife needs more time with me and I will need to be texting and calling less with all sorts of folks in my life – it’s time to prioritize – thanks for hearing me out

If you’re in a family full of vampires, you might need to build a chore wheel and map out a schedule for meal time, alone time, and other times that allow you to make space for yourself and inquire within. 

By trying some of these things, you will feel more energetic, aware, and relaxed. You’ll also begin to imagine other ways that you can improve your life. Stay focused and shake off any guilt that comes your way. Your primary relationships are to yourself and the Universe. Everyone else can get over themselves and adjust.

 

3. Set Boundaries With Vampires & Narcissists

When forced into close proximity with vampires and narcissists, it’s vital to recognize the extent to which you are depleting yourself. It’s not about them – it’s about you. If you’re constantly exhausted after exchanges with them, it’s time to buck-up and set some adult boundaries. YOU CAN DO THIS!

With coworkers, you’ll need to be politically correct, clear, and kind. You don’t want to jeopardize your work-sitch, especially if you love your job. Tell this category of vampires that you are falling behind in your deliverables and you need to get yourself together so that you are able to sustain your life. 

For the vampire friends and family members in your life, stay away from giving them advice. They don’t want to hear it. Own your stuff and tell them how much you care about them – but don’t be a panting puppy dog. Just be clear and concise. If you’re deeply empathic, be very careful to block their projections and do not absorb any of their disappointment, sadness, or anger. That’s their stuff. You focus on your stuff. 

You must remember that when you develop a true sense-of-self and you protect this Self by setting boundaries, you’re educating the vampires in your life and all of the people who engage with them. 

By removing yourself from these dynamics, you stop a variety of codependent cycles. 

 

Energy Vampires Are Here to Stay

Throughout our lives, we will run into countless people that want to take advantage of your kindness. While there are many ways to cope with the people using you, it can be downright impossible to remove all of them. And you could spend a thousand lifetimes trying to fix them.

Modern day technology has spoiled many people. Companies cater to customers and build a false sense of entitlement in many, because of this, Energy Vampires thrive on others catering their every want and need. Remember that behind each email address, each phone call, and each smile, is a whole person with emotions and needs just like yours.

 

 

What if YOU are the Vampire in the Relationship?

If you’re reading this and feel like, “Holy moly, I’m a vampire!,” then my gosh, lucky you! Use this article as a pathway to improve yourself. There is no time like the present moment to own your shit and start improving your life. Go for it!

Some vampires and narcissists are completely clueless. It’s not because they’re bad people, it’s because hey grew up needy and nobody ever challenged their self-absorbed self-concept. If we change things within ourselves, we become stronger, studier, more compassionate, and more clear. 

Remember this: whatever your narrative is, whatever is ailing you, whatever you feel overwhelmed with and consumed by, other people are going through the same thing – or worse. 

Remember, too, change doesn’t happen overnight. Over time, the little changes you make will result in a big impact on you, your energy, and the people around you. Start small. Before picking up the phone to blame someone or manipulate someone into helping you, write down a few things you can do to improve your situation. When we look within, we find ALL the answers. 

Most importantly, when building relationships with others, allow the other person to speak, and remember to LISTEN! It can be tempting to think about how you are going to respond, but this is just plain lazy. Listening deeply to others, we expand our hearts and our understanding of the Universe. 

When listening, consider how it might feel to be in their situation, then respond honestly and lovingly. If you’re tired of your inner-narcissist, seek to serve others. This is the quickest pathway to our liberation.

Meditate, journal, and pray. When you pray for others, the Universe prays for you. You are unlimited in every direction, so refrain from making excuses – and get to work! When you unfold and expand, you become a light to others. Every thought, intention, and action feeds the eternal whole. Be a light and you will become the light. 

 

 

 

Highly Sensitive People (HSP): The Gifts, Challenges, And Miracles Of Being Super-Sensitive Super-Heroes

Highly Sensitive People (HSP) are Super-Sensitive Superheroes

Highly Sensitive People (HSP) are Super-Sensitive Superheroes

Each of us is a unique, living Being, filled with a unique set of insights, experiences, attitudes, attributes, and skills. Additionally, each of us projects unique temporary self-identities into the world, each with a unique level of sensitivity. 

Some of us are super-empathic, while others can hear through walls. The most sensitive of us have a variety of super-hero-like qualities, which can be a blessing or a curse. If you can fly high, you can also fall hard.

If you’re super-sensitive and can feel someone’s pain or reality in some way, you might be a Highly Sensitive Person or HSP. HSPs do not have a debilitating disorder, rather, they have an expanded awareness through one or more of their senses. 

The bigshots in the psychology world call this “sensory-processing sensitivity” or “extra-sensory perception.” I call it LUCKY! Being highly sensitive invites a wide range of awareness and great depths of experiences. As an HSP or Empath, you’ll never wonder if “this is all there is” in life, because you’ll always be ingesting or experiencing something super-sad, harsh, beautiful, luscious, troubling, traumatic, deepening, expanding, or wildly fascinating. 

I always say that HSPs and Empaths are People In Technicolor! It’s like Crayola gave us a larger variety of crayons to play with. Enjoy them all!

People with these types of traits feel and experience themselves to be more connected to the world around them. While life can be a little challenging for those of us who feel or sense everything everywhere, we each have the ability to clear the air, release the energy, and begin again HSPs and Empaths are NEVER victims. 

You can learn more about being the best HSPs or Empaths you can be by reading my EMPATH OATH. Go for it!

 

The 12 Gifts Of Highly Sensitive People

 

1. Expanded, Vibrant Senses

Most HSPs have heightened senses. Their experiences of smell, taste, hearing, touch, emotion, and sight are extraordinary, often superior when compared to the rest of us. This can be a blessing when we work in fields that require specific sense-acuity, but might make it difficult to function or appear to function normally in regular-Joe, everyday, suburban life. 

One thing is certain: being an HSP or Empath will invite feelings and understandings that the rest of the population will only read about. 

With heightened senses, we are better able to understand others. We can feel through to the depth of what someone is feeling or embodying. HSPs can sense things in other people that they might never be able to articulate. 

Being super-sensitive can also be a little challenging at times. Smells can trigger discomfort, gagging, dizziness, or headaches. Taste can either accentuate a flavor you love or one that makes you feel kinda yucky. 

Sounds can be healing and enlightening, but sometimes make us feel unsettled or too anxious to sleep at night. 

Bright lights can trigger physical healings and supernatural awareness, while for some HSPs, they might temporarily experience migraines or slight confusion. 

For some of the most sensitive HSPs and Empaths, clothes can affect how they feel or produce unsightly rashes at times, which can have impacts on positivity, clarity, productivity, intimacy, and communication. 

People with stronger senses often find it difficult to enjoy crowded social environments like restaurants and bars. These over-stimulating environments might take a toll on them and are best to be avoided. 

Some HSP super-heroes can even find it challenging to be around those who wear perfumes, essential oils, and cologne. Some flowers in the wild might also trigger temporary discomfort. And yet, sometimes these smells can open pathways and doorways to awareness and knowledge only found in the other realms. 

Heck, if you’re invested in being super-sensitive and you practice meditation, forgiveness, yoga, and similar, you might experience merging with the divine on occasion and have a fast path to enlightenment. Just be careful to stay out of your ego with regard to this aspect. 

Suffice to say, being an HSP or Empath is certainly fascinating! 

 

 2. Enhanced Audio Responses

Highly Sensitive People have stronger responses to ASMR. The gentle sounds of scraping ears or whispering can cause a sensitive person to get goosebumps and tingles. They often enjoy playing static sounds while they work or sleep to a sound machine. This “white noise” can be incredibly nurturing and calming for HSPs.

Background noise helps HSPs block and ignore the other sounds that interrupt their concentration, clarity, or sleep. This may not be a problem at home, but hotels, social gatherings, and hanging with friends at their homes can result in feeling sad, overwhelmed, drained, and more. After exposure to these environments, you might also be unable to sleep for a time.

When listening to music, sensitive people feel the depths of the artists’ intentions. They may laugh or dance wildly, unable to contain themselves. Or they may burst into tears from the music, and have no explanation. 

Our hearing can provoke a rush of emotions within us and give rise to bursts of energy. In the right setting, these abilities can enhance a person’s life, while at other times, interfere with their joy and flow.

 

3. Difficulty in Crowds

With heightened senses, it’s no surprise that HSPs prefers to not be surrounded by too many things at once. In malls, around large crowds, and socializing with strangers, sensitive people can find it difficult to focus and communicate. 

Empaths and HSPs can’t help but absorb the energies of everything that’s happening around them. In a busy food court, HSPs are surrounded by conversations they can’t turn off. In extreme cases, they may be forced to put on headphones or sit far away from others. These might be the only remedies to help them feel relaxed, present, and peaceful. 

These highly sensitive souls will most likely hear, understand, and feel empathy for concurrent conversations within their surrounding areas. If asked, they could solve everybody’s problems with 10 words or less. 

Seriously, being an HSP is both incredible and overwhelming at the same time. Being friends with an HSP can be wonderfully illuminating or a little challenging now and again. 

 

4. High Levels of Empathy

HSPs often report feeling more connected to others at an early age. Their fascination with their heightened senses allows them to embody the people they meet. They feel emotions that are beyond their present inner depths. Because of this, they often develop acute understandings of the human condition.

Highly Sensitive People are empathetic and use their natural gifts to solve problems. Because of this, most find it easy to help others, quickly finding solutions to problems other people find challenging. 

The connection an HSP shares with the world allows them to better understand how things are connected. In the right hands, these abilities can shape the lives of those around them.

 

  5. Frequent Crying

The wonderful world of being highly sensitive can be like a roller coaster at The International Emotions Theme Park. Empaths and HSPs can fall in love and hate within one sneeze. Some of these folks may find it difficult to separate themselves from others – especially after slightly or exaggerated intimate exchanges. 

Dr. Elaine Aaron reports, sensitive people tend to cry more than non-HSPs. This is because they often place themselves in the situations of others. For them, witnessing loss in other people is equal to experiencing those losses first hand. Because of this, sad events and dramatic movies can be both expanding and challenging for the HSP.

If you love to cry, you might be an Empath or HSP. Awesome! The more we feel and cry-out the realities of others, the more we expand and improve upon ourselves. If we can feel into and forgive every aspect in creation, we forgive the same within ourselves – and we expand more regularly into the light. 

 

6. Difficulty Observing Graphic Content

HSPs experience can sense sorrow and sadness a mile away. If a priest is hearing confession three blocks down the road, an Empath might feel the confessioner’s heart. It’s that intense! The same can be said for how they can sense, feel, and absorb fear and other types of pain. 

This means it can be challenging to watch horror movies, action flicks, and any content that appears to be graphic or violent in some way. Heck, even a sex scene can make an HSP nervous, anxious, or depressed. 

In extreme cases, these lovely sensitive, and often overwhelmed people, might report feeling the pain of those afflicted. Others may feel queasy or scared when consuming cringy content.  

 

 7. Struggling Under Pressure

An HSP may be quick to feel overwhelmed, confused, or frozen. Growing up, they may have tended to buckle under pressures of tests, often performing worse than they expected. Their school and work projects may cause them to fail in their homework and deliverables, while experiencing a serious lack of sleep.

As they mature and grow, a Highly Sensitive Person might discover they have personal issues when there are too many challenges at work and too many confusing dynamics at home. 

As such, an HSP can become acutely aware of every missing or challenged aspect in their lives, the composite of which can cause them to spiral out of control, into elation, or into exhaustion. 

When working with or loving an HSP, one might never be able to predict the day-to-day or longer-term trajectories and outcomes!

 

8. Creative and Innovative

Growing up, sensitive people report having had more imaginary friends, needing and enjoying role-playing games, and having the urge to be continuously self-expressive and creative. Their creativity blossoms when focused on drawings, reading, exploring new ideas, and innovating on something mundane or lifeless. 

As adults, HSPs are often very ingenious, tending to uncover new ways that the world and its inhabitants can improve their realities. HSPs often report having vivid dreams and wandering within their minds, into newly imagined realities. 

HSPs and Empaths might also find it easier to consciously leave their bodies, seeking to explore this realm and spacetime continuum, and others. 

 

9. Caffeine Sensitivity

For many sensitive people, morning coffee is either an awesome drug, debilitating virus, or simply out of the question. Just a small cup of coffee can send HSPs into a becoming a would, shaking mess. They might enjoy that for 10 minutes, and then they’ll be on the floor sobbing into their socks. 

HSPs and Empaths should try to avoid most caffeine and sugar – all because of the crash. Their crashes are 2-10X more elaborate and dramatic than everybody else’s. 

Espresso can be better for Empaths because it helps their minds focus. Espresso is also a more feminine and creative experience, whereas coffee usually creates an aggressive state of mind and heart.   

Substance sensitivity doesn’t stop there. Many HSPs report increased effects of alcohol, candy, and meat. Some choose to remove these things from their diet entirely. The finely tuned body of an HSP might have no use for stimulants or depressants. The slightest nudge in either direction will disrupt their balance.

If you’re an HSP, you might consider exploring Ayurvedic medicine, where it’s all about balancing your doshas (or aspects). Your body might require the finely-tuned experience of this ancient modality, the extent of which could help you regain lost energy, set energetic boundaries, and maintain a healthy emotional balance within yourself, for years to come. 

 

10. Fight Well with Others

Fights and disagreements with close friends or family can prove devastating for those who are deeply attuned to the people around them. An HSP will also carry the emotions and experiences of those they love for a long period of time, often hurting themselves. 

For those who are super-connected, every conflict can lead to sets of visceral reactions. As a fight or disagreement ensues around them, they may even become ill or nauseous.

Because of their deep Empathic natures, they tend to avoid drama and conflict, saving themselves the stress of feeling a loved-one’s pain, anguish, sadness, anger, and frustration.

 

11. Attuned to Their Surroundings

HSPs find it easier to stay focused when working or living in spaces committed to support their current hobbies, tasks, and endeavors. When the energy of the room matches theirs, they might be able to relax a little more. If an environment is dedicated to chaos or play, Empaths can find it it difficult to function, relate with others, or be productive. While open offices can be challenging for an HSP, when working within a secure and quiet space, they will tend to thrive. 

Modern society favors extroverts and busy environments to keep workflow at maximum speed. Sensitive individuals may find they work best when there are no distractions whatsoever. 

 

12. Often Exhausted

People who are naturally more connected to their emotions and the energies around them might report feeling burned-out out over-extended. Somehow they are unable to turn off their gifts and enjoy their own, private space. 

When HSPs are subject to feeling everything around them, they absorb every person’s problems and take them on as their private, subtle-body projections. If they’re not careful and forget to release the energies they’ve absorbed, they will feel drained and exhausted. 

Some of the energies that HSPs consume will feel as though they are abusing themselves. This is a common dilemma among HSPs and Empaths. 

Highly Sensitive People often have to take breaks from society, families, and complex work environments. They continually need the time and space where they can experience peacefulness, clarity, and relaxation. 

HSPs may find meditation and yoga (link) will help them silence the world around them. Others might go camping or detach from society altogether. 

Regardless of their choice, HSP’s eventually become overburdened with the world around them and may remove themselves to recharge their emotional batteries, and clear their minds. 

 

Highly Sensitive People Moving Forward

If you’re an HSP, GOD BLESS YOU! It can be challenging, but my gosh, it can also be incredibly illuminating!

As you grow older, you might learn to expand upon your sensitivities and become a coach, psychic, intuitive reader, or therapist. You might choose to help others in these ways or use your sensitivities to expand your soul and life. 

As an HSP, you’ve been given a 5th sense. This will allow you to experience the world in four or five dimensions, while others are subject to three dimensions.

Whatever your gifts are, whether simple and common, or outrageous and other-worldly, seek to serve others so that you can expand your nature and improve humanities experience while here on the lovely and beautiful planet Earth.

The Empath Oath: A Commitment to Emotional and Spiritual Freedom

Empath oath

Take THE EMPATH OATH. A Shutterstock Licensed Image.

As an Empath or highly sensitive person, I’m able to absorb and quantify emotions emanating from a person, group, or environment. I may also be able to embody the emotions of a person or event remotely.

While many Empaths are loving and compassionate, some are not. Regardless, I am uniquely qualified to help myself and help others help themselves.

Make a formal commitment to THE EMPATH OATH HERE.

I wholeheartedly agree with each thought below:

  1. I agree to observe and parse the emotions that I witness and absorb, without blaming anyone, at any time, including myself.

  2. I promise to regularly clear the compiled energies that have attached to or exist within my heart and body.

  3. I promise to embody love and compassion so that I can be of service to my fellow human beings, deceased ancestors, energy-entities, and light-beings.

  4. I promise to set clear boundaries with others so that I can remain whole, healed, and protected. If I need help learning how to set boundaries, I will seek the advice of a mentor.

  5. I agree to be a beacon of light and positivity at all times.

  6. When communicating my projections, beliefs, feelings, and experiences to others, I promise to keep my ego at bay and deny my ego any measure of self-indulgence, self-aggrandizement, or self-gratification.

  7. I will continually seek high-vibration energies, awakened masters, and light-beings to light my path, clear my heart, and cleanse my soul.

  8. I agree to learn additional high-vibration modalities, including prayers, incantations, mantras, sutras, and rituals that are of the light and in service to the light.

  9. I agree to commune with at least one positive person every week so that I can uplevel my vibration, moods, and attitudes.

  10. I agree to love myself and nurture myself, especially in times of stress, confusion, and trauma. This might include journaling, walking in the forest, praying, crying, writing loving letters, seeking out good friends, dancing, coloring, singing, or laughing.

  11. I agree to begin the process of forgiveness for every soul who has caused or co-created a negative impact on my life, heart, mind or physical body.

  12. I agree to continually forgive the innuendos, misgivings, attacks, and unconscious behavior of others, whether the culprits are partially or completely at fault.

  13. I do not require that others apologize to me or tell me that I “was right” with regard to any situation, at any time. If I require this type of validation, I will seek it within myself.

  14. Upon any infraction against my being, body, or spirit, I will immediately release any prior or newly created anger, sadness, and disappointment without any requirement of another person’s admissions, remorse, or reciprocity.

  15. Regardless of what I might imagine to be relevant excuses, I will continually strive to be a loving and conscious person.

  16. Regardless of the behavior, I will always seek the high road. Upon every infraction, I will be “the better person” by becoming a healing force of light.

  17. I will honor my boundaries and the boundaries that others require of me.

  18. I will be kind, friendly, courteous, gracious, thoughtful, and generous, knowing that my efforts will improve the conditions, experiences, and feelings of those around me.

  19. I admit that I am flawed but I promise to never allow my flaws to cloud my judgment and desire to help humankind.

  20. I own my “buttons,” issues, feelings, attitudes, intentions, and experiences as if I chose every one of them for the sole purpose of helping me to rise above and beyond myself.

  21. I own all of my accumulated intellectual, emotional, and spiritual trash. As such, I will dissolve from my heart and mind: all grudges, resentments, egocentricities, hateful projections, fantasies of vengeance, and harmful thoughts.

  22. I will seek solace in mindfulness, meditation, prayer, and peaceful action.

  23. If I am feeling out of control, I will immediately seek help and inspiration from therapy, counseling, massage, Bach Flower Remedies, homeopathy, organic food, fasting, yoga, dance, and other healthy modalities for self-expression, creativity, and healing. I will also drastically reduce or extinguish sugar, caffeine, marijuana, drugs, and other harmful substances and activities from my life.

  24. I agree to pursue healing for my addictive patterns and refrain from dragging others into my drama.

  25. I understand that the people and events that I attract to my life are born from my energetic body, which means that on some level, I chose them. As such, I will not blame the people or events in my life, rather, I will seek to improve upon myself and upraise my vibration.

  26. I will read books and seek healers to help me understand myself, other people, spirit, and the divine.

  27. I will respond to every person and situation with careful awareness.

  28. I will only speak in ways that uplift the vibration of myself, others, and the eternal consciousness, and I will discard the rest.

  29. I will choose to be happy most of the time because I know that happiness is the path. I also know that happiness is a choice.

  30. I confirm that I am committed to being a vehicle for clarity, healing, light, and love, first for myself, and then for others.

  31. I confirm that my contract is not with individuals, it is with the universe.

  32. I confirm that there is no “other”. At all times, in all circumstances, in every situation, the other person is always me.

Make a formal commitment to THE EMPATH OATH HERE.

How to Know if You’re an Empath: The 18 Signs of Being a Highly Sensitive Superhero

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If you’re an Empath, you have super-powers. A Shutterstock Licensed Image.

We are all made of sound and light, groupings of electromagnetic fields and frequencies, culminating in unique vibrations that repel and attract other vibrations. The realities that we embody are the magnets for all realities to come.

As you embrace your intuitive nature, you will eventually come to learn that other people’s feelings, actions, responses, and feedback are their dreams, not yours. These things are of no consequence to you, unless you afford them power.

In other words, while others emanate, vibrate, and irritate themselves, look deeper within and grow the light that most reflects your happiness.

You will always become the vibration that you feed.

 

These are the 18 Signs and Attributes of an Empath:

  1. You are acutely aware of what other people are feeling (emotions, moods, and attitudes) the majority of the time, whether in-person, remote, or via text messages.

  2. Your natural inclination is to carry the feelings and burdens of others, often being their therapist, healer, or “best friend.”

  3. When something is potentially questionable, wrong, or dangerous to yourself or others, you have an undeniable feeling in your heart, mind, or gut.

  4. You regularly absorb the energy, feelings, and attitudes of other people or groups of people. This can be debilitating, for a period of time.

  5. Loud, aggressive, and negative people overwhelm you, push you into an emotional corner, and deplete your positivity, receptiveness, and life force.

  6. Emotional confrontations with closed-minded people can feel momentarily traumatizing or oppressive.

  7. The crowds found in stores, and at parties and events, can feel so overwhelming to you, that you’d rather stay home or remain in the car. You might even hide in the bathroom.

  8. When other people in your circle are in pain, they confess their deepest secrets to you and seek your counsel. This doesn’t surprise you at all. You naturally oblige.

  9. Strangers might see something in your eyes or feel the emanations from your heart, which can cause them to want to be near you, hug you, share their secrets, or ask for your advice. They might tell you that they love you.
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  10. No matter the emotional resonance of a room, whether filled with people or not, you will feel the energy of that room, and be able to describe it with the utmost clarity.

  11. Rain, snow, clouds, and shadowy weather can be helpful to you because it often keeps others indoors and makes everyone more self-reflective. The lessened energy buzzing around you helps you feel more at peace. Conversely, sunny days can have either a positive or negative effect on you, depending upon your personal boundaries and the levels of energy being emitted by others.

  12. You instinctively know when others are being truthful or dishonest, and transparent or protective. This is true whether your meeting is in-person, remote, and via text messages.

  13. When a person is speaking to you, you pay less attention to the words and more attention to the feelings beneath the surface. You will often become irritated when the words do not match the feelings.

  14. You can sense, perceive, or feel the potential of a forthcoming event, sometimes long before it happens, including when others are near to passing beyond this life.

  15. You accumulate emotions like others accumulate savings in their bank accounts. Regular emotional clearings are required.

  16. You are intuitively drawn to heart-centered movies because they inspire you to feel deeply, thereby helping you clear trapped emotions.

  17. When you do not clear your emotions or honor yourself, you are prone to feeling angry and you might wrongly assume the position of the victim. You are not a victim.

  18. When you take care of yourself and continually refuse the victim mindset, your life has a beautiful flow to it, and you feel like an emotional Superhero.

Click here, if you’re ready to take The Empath Oath.

What It’s Like to Be An Empath and Clairsentient

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Empaths who are Clairsentients can feel a little overwhelmed.

Empaths and Clairsentients feel and sense the emotions, vibrations, and energy of the people, animals, life-forms, and objects in a room, from a distance, and often, remotely.

If you are conflicted about something in your life, it often relates to your ability to know or process what you are feeling. Empaths and Clairsentients can pick up on your feelings related to a person, place or event. When they communicate what they are absorbing or experiencing, it can easily provoke your emotional release or a deep inner-knowing. This can heal you on several levels: emotionally, psychologically, physically, spiritually, and socially.

These lovely and giving people are often shy (not always) and have created public masks and work-arounds that allow them to function successfully in society.

As a person who can embody either of these archetypes, I know how they can be misunderstood, mistreated, and undervalued. In the past, this is exactly what I had done to myself. But no longer.

If you know an Empath or Clairsentient, nurture that relationship. They can bring great value to your life. Chances are, they’ve already processed a litany of your emotions, thoughts, pains, and burdens.

 

Empaths and Clairsentients are very similar, except that Clairsentience, otherwise known as “clear feeling”, includes a broader skillset. Beyond the embodiment and sensing of feelings and energies, Clairsentients can have physical sensations which give them information about people, light-beings, spirits, plants, objects, and events – either near to them or elsewhere.

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As a result of being near someone who is in pain or has an illness, a Clairsentient might experience physical changes to their body, like favoring a sore knee, or feeling pain in a specific area of their body.

Clairsentients might also feel the remnants of a disease or sickness from someone nearby, for example, marks from drug needles or a harsh headache from alcohol or caffeine abuse. In these cases, the Clairsentient will have a deep longing to share the information, simply because they want to help the other person.

A Clairsentient’s heart will feel as though it bleeds for the person near to them who is in pain, so much so that they might not be able to be around them for very long.

 

Clairsentience is an under-estimated psychic gift and adds a great deal of heart and value to the world.

How Can Empaths and Clairsentients Take Care of Themselves?

I meditate, chant in Sanskrit, and drink Espresso. Without all of these things, I quickly get stuck in my emotional body and am unable to move. If I can’t move through an environment or set of emotions that I’m sensing, I will be of no value to anyone, including myself.

Espresso is the latest addition that changed my life. Seriously, it changed every aspect of my life. I frickin’ love espresso.

With my awesome Breville espresso machine, crates of Hemp and Oat milk, and a beautiful, fat coffee mug, I am now able to process every aspect of what I feel, sense, and see, without getting stuck.

No longer am I overwhelmed with every energetic body within a 2-mile radius. In many ways, I’m more free and liberated than I have ever been in my life.

I also crash like I’ve just come home from a 6-month covert military operation. Every drug has its downside.

How Can You Develop Empathic Sensitivities and Clairsentience?

You are already empathic and clairsentient. Every person on the planet is as sensitive as they want to be. Most of us cram our minds and lives full of unworthy activities, relationships, and details. Once you begin clearing your life of these things, you’ll find that the universe has far more in store for you than you may have otherwise realized.

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You are a magnet that is attracting the vibrations that are within you. If you are clear, you will attract clarity. If you are burdened, you will attract more of the same.

Clear your vessel, and you’ll improve not only your health, but you can also improve your IQ and EQ. Living fully and wholeheartedly does not require details or complications. It only requires that you open your heart and receive. When we receive in this way, we are given information. If we explore and then learn how to parse this information correctly, we can bring great value to our lives and the lives of others.

Being a Clairsentient is a full-body experience. It fills your heart, mind, and physical form with imagery, information, sounds, vibrations, and energetic material that can either hurt, disable, or enlighten.

I choose the latter.

Check Out my Empath Oath here: It’s powerful.