Highly Sensitive People (HSPs): The Gifts, Challenges, and Miracles

“Highly Sensitive Person” Written on Paper with Hand Holding a Delicate Flower. Shutterstock licensed image.

HSP: The Gifts, Challenges, and Miracles

Some of us are wildly sensitive. We might be grocery shopping and feel what other shoppers are feeling. We might even sense the emotions of yesterday’s workers – the ones who placed the cucumbers into the bin in front of us.  Alas, if you are feeling like you collect energy from every experience and find it difficult to shake it, you might be a Highly Sensitive Person.

purchase-the-personality-cards-oracle-tarot-deckBeing more sensitive and vulnerable means that your soul has grown to sense what others are feeling. Some HSPs feel things but don’t internalize them. Others feel them and process them at a deep level.

Some HSPs are compassionate, while others might not have an ounce of empathy. Being sensitive does not necessarily mean you are evolved. It must means that you don’t have the same protective mechanisms as others. It might also mean that your brain process experiences, relationships, and emotions in a unique way.

A few questions the might help you determine if you’re an HSP:

Do you often find yourself more in tune with others’ feelings or having more extreme reactions to certain events than those around you?

Do specific environments, emotions, or situations bother you, while other people go unaffected? 

During an argument, do you begin to feel overwhelmed, as if you’re carrying a burden that is not yours?

At cocktail parties and coffee shops, can you feel the emotions of the people around you?

Do you cry or feel stressed when other people are feeling the same?

If any of these questions are hitting home, it might be time to tune into yourself and learn what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).

The concept of being an HSP might feel like a burden, but it’s not. It’s not only a responsibility, it’s a super-hero power. Also, the more you know about yourself, the easier it is to own your experiences, shift perspectives, and protect yourself.

If you truly take command of your sensitivities, they’ll become immeasurably valuable tools & assets – even weapons.

As HSPs, we are not victims, we are warriors with super-skills.

What is a Highly Sensitive Person?

An HSP, also known as a Highly Sensitive Person, has a highly active nervous system and extreme sensory sensitivities. Studies are being done to show that Highly Sensitive People actually have brains that work a bit differently than others, causing them to react in unique and often powerful ways within their daily lives and relationships.purchase-the-personality-cards-oracle-tarot-deck

While this might sound a bit strange or abnormal, HSP is not a disorder. In fact, around 15-20% of people report they might be HSPs, making it a lot more common than you think! At the same time, not enough people experience these symptoms for the personality to be widely accepted. Unfortunately, that can make Highly Sensitive People feel lonely and misunderstood.

What’s really unique about the HSP personality trait is that it can be found in a wide variety of personality types. You can be an HSP and an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert. HSPs also come from a variety of backgrounds. Depending on the culture an HSP lives within, they might be lovingly accepted, pitied, feared, worshiped, or ostracized.

How Do I Know if I’m a Highly Sensitive Person?

You deserve to get to know yourself so that you can be 100% comfortable with who you are! If you’ve ended up reading this article, it’s likely you have the traits of a Highly Sensitive Person – or someone close to you in an HSP.

HSP traits can manifest in several ways. Some people are highly sensitive to environments that have too many stimuli, such as loud noises, bright lights, too many people, or distinct textures found on walls or on clothing. When exploring these environments, you might feel like you need to retreat into a quiet, secret place so you can recharge and prepare for your next outing.

Some HSPs will go to cocktail parties and similar events only to spend most of their time in the bathroom, their car, washing the dishes, or playing with the loneliest child at the event. Others might show up and quickly exit, never to return again.

As a fellow HSP, I know life can be challenging at times. Some experiences can be so overwhelming, you won’t want to speak to anybody for a day, two days, or more! If you’re also empathic, you might then carry some of the reactive emotions of those who felt disappointed by your exit. Being an HSP can be an overwhelming and never-ending cycle of energetic absorption and release.

Some HSPs are more reactive to emotional stimuli such as with friends, family, and romantic partners. A small spat might feel like a life-changing argument, and a small trickle of affection can feel like a profound, intimate, and loving moment. As such, HSPs might also experience deep thoughts and emotions without receiving sufficient reciprocation.

Further, you might feel the need to avoid intense movies, art galleries, books, and other experiences that overwhelm you. The feelings that emerge from being overwhelmed can be unsettling and potentially anxiety-inducing. You might also feel deeply moved by beauty and upon each event, you might experience your own personalized form of ecstasy. purchase-the-personality-cards-oracle-tarot-deck

If you’re still unsure about whether you’re a Highly Sensitive Person, there are tests you can take. Specifically, there’s a questionnaire by Elaine N. Aron written in 1996 that has 27 questions. If you answer YES to 14 of the questions, there’s a high probability of being an HSP. Remember, though, that questionnaires like these are subjective, and you should never make changes to your life without further consulting with health care professionals and your most trusted allies and friends. 

Explore my Empath Oath to see how your virtues correlate to your depth of feelings for the world.

 

High Sensitivity Is A Super-Power

Everyone is unique! Each of us has our own personality with unique quirks and needs. Being an HSP means that your super-power is born from sensing energy. If you process and harness this energy in the correct way, you will experience a deeper connection to everyone and everything around you – and you’ll have a highly advanced prayer life – but only if you allow these things.

Having HSP traits can feel burdensome until you decide to master them. 

MASTERING YOUR HSP AWARENESS

Here are a few rules you might consider as you explore the benefits of being a Highly Sensitive Person:

Own your sensitivities and celebrate them.

Never blame others for being sensitive.

Never play the victim. 

Own your experiences and process them like a Warrior.

Use the knowledge gained from being sensitivity to your benefit. 

Help others when you can, but don’t hurt yourself in the process.

Clear the energies as often as possible: Cry, Shout, Pray, Cry Some More, Pound The Earth, Do Cleansing Rituals & Ceremonies, And Forgive Everything Often!

Challenges for HSPs

If someone calls you “sensitive,” it is often meant negatively. It can hurt to hear that we “overreact” or “think too much” because it invalidates our emotions and experiences. People with HSP traits suffer these insults and invalidations more often than others because of their visceral reactions to life. 

It’s true – HSPs experience life, emotions, and thoughts on a much deeper level. What feels good to some will feel great to you, but what feels bad to others can absolutely devastate you. Pain, whether emotional or physical, is experienced much more by HSPs, and recovery time can be much longer.

purchase-the-personality-cards-oracle-tarot-deckAs a result, many HSPs choose to take a back seat in life to avoid pain and disappointment. It might feel too much to handle when people or life obstacles let you down. HSPs can often pass up opportunities for growth and enjoyment because they’d rather avoid overstimulation, exhaustion, and potential pain.

The Benefits of Being an HSP

Highly Sensitive People have strong gut feelings and are incredibly intuitive. Having a sensitive nervous system means that you pick up on stimuli that most people can’t, and you have stellar observation skills. You won’t only be able to pick up on changes in your environment but also sense the needs of others with fantastic accuracy and foresight.

HSPs can enjoy intense and powerful relationships with others because of their ability to empathize, anticipate needs, and feel emotions deeply. For the same reasons, they make stellar parents.

Being able to pick up on stimuli and experience on an advanced level means you can also enjoy life so much more. Prayer, rituals, devotion, fine food, art, sex, travel, and adventures can be enjoyed on a whole new level. Having a heightened ability to enjoy stimuli means you have a positive attitude.

When you are extremely grateful for life and everything you have, you are an EMPOWERED HSP!

 

Self Care for Highly Sensitive People

Overall, you should celebrate and feel blessed if you are a Highly Sensitive Person! The people you should keep in your life are those who appreciate how deeply you feel things, including how deeply you understand and care about them. In exchange, your personal tribe should understand your need for space and cooldown periods when things get too intense. 

Here are some great methods that HSPs can introduce to their daily lives in order to find balance, peace, and growth:

      • Schedule positive experiences into your most hectic days
      • Plan for alone time and relaxation periods after anticipated times of overwhelm
      • Suggest alternatives to experiences that you aren’t comfortable with – there’s no need to push yourself
      • Come to understand your personal boundaries for environments, people, and tasks – and be clear about your triggers
      • Create a soothing space you can use as a retreat when you’re overstimulated – build a lovely altar
      • Incorporate meditation, yoga, prayer, and other practices that allow you to center your body and mind to find balance

purchase-the-personality-cards-oracle-tarot-deckProper self-care for HSPs is important. To fully know yourself, remember to incorporate helpful practices so that you can continually experience peacefulness in your mind, body, and heart. 

Embrace Your Sensitivity

If you ever become upset over your state as a Highly Sensitive Person, remember that you aren’t alone. Some of the most innovative and profound people in the world are HSPs. And many will go down in history as assets to humanity. Scientists like Albert Einstein, actors like Jim Carey, Gilda Radner, and Nicole Kidman, and social reformers like Desmond Tutu, Jane Goodall, and Martin Luther King Jr. are also HSPs who made the most of their sensitivity superpowers!

You are extremely intuitive, empathetic, expressive, and compassionate, and all your friends and family are lucky to have you in their lives. You’re on the path to seeing and doing great things. Remember to harness the power of your ultra-sensitive nervous system and unique mind for your own benefit and the benefit of those you engage. 

As a human being, you are the embodiment of love. As an HSP, you have 10X the ability to feel this at a core level – so OWN IT!

REMEMBER!

You are a beautiful Living Being filled with light and love, born from stardust. You are unlimited potential in every direction. With a focus on discipline, virtue, and your own goodness, you can become as expanded and liberated as you desire. 

Pray for others and the Universe prays for us. 

LOTS OF BLESSINGS TO YOU!

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There is no “Other.” There is only you experiencing yourself.

 

The Empath Oath: A Commitment to Emotional and Spiritual Freedom

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As an Empath or highly sensitive person, I’m able to absorb and quantify emotions emanating from a person, group, or environment. I may also be able to embody the emotions of a person or event remotely.

While many Empaths are loving and compassionate, some are not. Regardless, I am uniquely qualified to help myself and help others help themselves.

Make a formal commitment to THE EMPATH OATH HERE.

I wholeheartedly agree with each thought below:

  1. I agree to observe and parse the emotions that I witness and absorb, without blaming anyone, at any time, including myself.

  2. I promise to regularly clear the compiled energies that have attached to or exist within my heart and body.

  3. I promise to embody love and compassion so that I can be of service to my fellow human beings, deceased ancestors, energy-entities, and light-beings.

  4. I promise to set clear boundaries with others so that I can remain whole, healed, and protected. If I need help learning how to set boundaries, I will seek the advice of a mentor.

  5. I agree to be a beacon of light and positivity at all times.

  6. When communicating my projections, beliefs, feelings, and experiences to others, I promise to keep my ego at bay and deny my ego any measure of self-indulgence, self-aggrandizement, or self-gratification.

  7. I will continually seek high-vibration energies, awakened masters, and light-beings to light my path, clear my heart, and cleanse my soul.

  8. I agree to learn additional high-vibration modalities, including prayers, incantations, mantras, sutras, and rituals that are of the light and in service to the light.

  9. I agree to commune with at least one positive person every week so that I can uplevel my vibration, moods, and attitudes.

  10. I agree to love myself and nurture myself, especially in times of stress, confusion, and trauma. This might include journaling, walking in the forest, praying, crying, writing loving letters, seeking out good friends, dancing, coloring, singing, or laughing.

  11. I agree to begin the process of forgiveness for every soul who has caused or co-created a negative impact on my life, heart, mind or physical body.

  12. I agree to continually forgive the innuendos, misgivings, attacks, and unconscious behavior of others, whether the culprits are partially or completely at fault.

  13. I do not require that others apologize to me or tell me that I “was right” with regard to any situation, at any time. If I require this type of validation, I will seek it within myself.

  14. Upon any infraction against my being, body, or spirit, I will immediately release any prior or newly created anger, sadness, and disappointment without any requirement of another person’s admissions, remorse, or reciprocity.

  15. Regardless of what I might imagine to be relevant excuses, I will continually strive to be a loving and conscious person.

  16. Regardless of the behavior, I will always seek the high road. Upon every infraction, I will be “the better person” by becoming a healing force of light.

  17. I will honor my boundaries and the boundaries that others require of me.

  18. I will be kind, friendly, courteous, gracious, thoughtful, and generous, knowing that my efforts will improve the conditions, experiences, and feelings of those around me.

  19. I admit that I am flawed but I promise to never allow my flaws to cloud my judgment and desire to help humankind.

  20. I own my “buttons,” issues, feelings, attitudes, intentions, and experiences as if I chose every one of them for the sole purpose of helping me to rise above and beyond myself.

  21. I own all of my accumulated intellectual, emotional, and spiritual trash. As such, I will dissolve from my heart and mind: all grudges, resentments, egocentricities, hateful projections, fantasies of vengeance, and harmful thoughts.

  22. I will seek solace in mindfulness, meditation, prayer, and peaceful action.

  23. If I am feeling out of control, I will immediately seek help and inspiration from therapy, counseling, massage, Bach Flower Remedies, homeopathy, organic food, fasting, yoga, dance, and other healthy modalities for self-expression, creativity, and healing. I will also drastically reduce or extinguish sugar, caffeine, marijuana, drugs, and other harmful substances and activities from my life.

  24. I agree to pursue healing for my addictive patterns and refrain from dragging others into my drama.

  25. I understand that the people and events that I attract to my life are born from my energetic body, which means that on some level, I chose them. As such, I will not blame the people or events in my life, rather, I will seek to improve upon myself and upraise my vibration.

  26. I will read books and seek healers to help me understand myself, other people, spirit, and the divine.

  27. I will respond to every person and situation with careful awareness.

  28. I will only speak in ways that uplift the vibration of myself, others, and the eternal consciousness, and I will discard the rest.

  29. I will choose to be happy most of the time because I know that happiness is the path. I also know that happiness is a choice.

  30. I confirm that I am committed to being a vehicle for clarity, healing, light, and love, first for myself, and then for others.

  31. I confirm that my contract is not with individuals, it is with the universe.

  32. I confirm that there is no “other”. At all times, in all circumstances, in every situation, the other person is always me.

Make a formal commitment to THE EMPATH OATH HERE.

How to Know if You’re an Empath: The 18 Signs of Being a Highly Sensitive Superhero

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If you’re an Empath, you have super-powers. A Shutterstock Licensed Image.

We are all made of sound and light, groupings of electromagnetic fields and frequencies, culminating in unique vibrations that repel and attract other vibrations. The realities that we embody are the magnets for all realities to come.

As you embrace your intuitive nature, you will eventually come to learn that other people’s feelings, actions, responses, and feedback are their dreams, not yours. These things are of no consequence to you, unless you afford them power.

In other words, while others emanate, vibrate, and irritate themselves, look deeper within and grow the light that most reflects your happiness.

You will always become the vibration that you feed.

 

These are the 18 Signs and Attributes of an Empath:

  1. You are acutely aware of what other people are feeling (emotions, moods, and attitudes) the majority of the time, whether in-person, remote, or via text messages.

  2. Your natural inclination is to carry the feelings and burdens of others, often being their therapist, healer, or “best friend.”

  3. When something is potentially questionable, wrong, or dangerous to yourself or others, you have an undeniable feeling in your heart, mind, or gut.

  4. You regularly absorb the energy, feelings, and attitudes of other people or groups of people. This can be debilitating, for a period of time.

  5. Loud, aggressive, and negative people overwhelm you, push you into an emotional corner, and deplete your positivity, receptiveness, and life force.

  6. Emotional confrontations with closed-minded people can feel momentarily traumatizing or oppressive.

  7. The crowds found in stores, and at parties and events, can feel so overwhelming to you, that you’d rather stay home or remain in the car. You might even hide in the bathroom.

  8. When other people in your circle are in pain, they confess their deepest secrets to you and seek your counsel. This doesn’t surprise you at all. You naturally oblige.

  9. Strangers might see something in your eyes or feel the emanations from your heart, which can cause them to want to be near you, hug you, share their secrets, or ask for your advice. They might tell you that they love you.
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  10. No matter the emotional resonance of a room, whether filled with people or not, you will feel the energy of that room, and be able to describe it with the utmost clarity.

  11. Rain, snow, clouds, and shadowy weather can be helpful to you because it often keeps others indoors and makes everyone more self-reflective. The lessened energy buzzing around you helps you feel more at peace. Conversely, sunny days can have either a positive or negative effect on you, depending upon your personal boundaries and the levels of energy being emitted by others.

  12. You instinctively know when others are being truthful or dishonest, and transparent or protective. This is true whether your meeting is in-person, remote, and via text messages.

  13. When a person is speaking to you, you pay less attention to the words and more attention to the feelings beneath the surface. You will often become irritated when the words do not match the feelings.

  14. You can sense, perceive, or feel the potential of a forthcoming event, sometimes long before it happens, including when others are near to passing beyond this life.

  15. You accumulate emotions like others accumulate savings in their bank accounts. Regular emotional clearings are required.

  16. You are intuitively drawn to heart-centered movies because they inspire you to feel deeply, thereby helping you clear trapped emotions.

  17. When you do not clear your emotions or honor yourself, you are prone to feeling angry and you might wrongly assume the position of the victim. You are not a victim.

  18. When you take care of yourself and continually refuse the victim mindset, your life has a beautiful flow to it, and you feel like an emotional Superhero.

Click here, if you’re ready to take The Empath Oath.

What It’s Like to Be An Empath and Clairsentient

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Empaths who are Clairsentients can feel a little overwhelmed.

Empaths and Clairsentients feel and sense the emotions, vibrations, and energy of the people, animals, life-forms, and objects in a room, from a distance, and often, remotely.

If you are conflicted about something in your life, it often relates to your ability to know or process what you are feeling. Empaths and Clairsentients can pick up on your feelings related to a person, place or event. When they communicate what they are absorbing or experiencing, it can easily provoke your emotional release or a deep inner-knowing. This can heal you on several levels: emotionally, psychologically, physically, spiritually, and socially.

These lovely and giving people are often shy (not always) and have created public masks and work-arounds that allow them to function successfully in society.

As a person who can embody either of these archetypes, I know how they can be misunderstood, mistreated, and undervalued. In the past, this is exactly what I had done to myself. But no longer.

If you know an Empath or Clairsentient, nurture that relationship. They can bring great value to your life. Chances are, they’ve already processed a litany of your emotions, thoughts, pains, and burdens.

 

Empaths and Clairsentients are very similar, except that Clairsentience, otherwise known as “clear feeling”, includes a broader skillset. Beyond the embodiment and sensing of feelings and energies, Clairsentients can have physical sensations which give them information about people, light-beings, spirits, plants, objects, and events – either near to them or elsewhere.

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As a result of being near someone who is in pain or has an illness, a Clairsentient might experience physical changes to their body, like favoring a sore knee, or feeling pain in a specific area of their body.

Clairsentients might also feel the remnants of a disease or sickness from someone nearby, for example, marks from drug needles or a harsh headache from alcohol or caffeine abuse. In these cases, the Clairsentient will have a deep longing to share the information, simply because they want to help the other person.

A Clairsentient’s heart will feel as though it bleeds for the person near to them who is in pain, so much so that they might not be able to be around them for very long.

 

Clairsentience is an under-estimated psychic gift and adds a great deal of heart and value to the world.

How Can Empaths and Clairsentients Take Care of Themselves?

I meditate, chant in Sanskrit, and drink Espresso. Without all of these things, I quickly get stuck in my emotional body and am unable to move. If I can’t move through an environment or set of emotions that I’m sensing, I will be of no value to anyone, including myself.

Espresso is the latest addition that changed my life. Seriously, it changed every aspect of my life. I frickin’ love espresso.

With my awesome Breville espresso machine, crates of Hemp and Oat milk, and a beautiful, fat coffee mug, I am now able to process every aspect of what I feel, sense, and see, without getting stuck.

No longer am I overwhelmed with every energetic body within a 2-mile radius. In many ways, I’m more free and liberated than I have ever been in my life.

I also crash like I’ve just come home from a 6-month covert military operation. Every drug has its downside.

How Can You Develop Empathic Sensitivities and Clairsentience?

You are already empathic and clairsentient. Every person on the planet is as sensitive as they want to be. Most of us cram our minds and lives full of unworthy activities, relationships, and details. Once you begin clearing your life of these things, you’ll find that the universe has far more in store for you than you may have otherwise realized.

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You are a magnet that is attracting the vibrations that are within you. If you are clear, you will attract clarity. If you are burdened, you will attract more of the same.

Clear your vessel, and you’ll improve not only your health, but you can also improve your IQ and EQ. Living fully and wholeheartedly does not require details or complications. It only requires that you open your heart and receive. When we receive in this way, we are given information. If we explore and then learn how to parse this information correctly, we can bring great value to our lives and the lives of others.

Being a Clairsentient is a full-body experience. It fills your heart, mind, and physical form with imagery, information, sounds, vibrations, and energetic material that can either hurt, disable, or enlighten.

I choose the latter.

Check Out my Empath Oath here: It’s powerful.