changing the book of life




Ceremony for a Profound Transformation

Handed down through the centuries
Taught to Paul Wagner by Lakota Elders in New Mexico

Reimagined and edited by Paul Wagner


This Ceremony Will Help You Sever Ties And Recover Lost Energy


Open Your Heart!


Be Full Of Gratitude!


The Faithful & Prayerful Will Receive The Divine’s Grace


You must first choose a filter for which to experience love from the universe/God. My filter is a combination of Buddha, An Oak Tree, Amma The Hugging Saint, and Jesus Christ. You need only pick one, but I mention mine because you can be as creative as you need or desire.

This filter is important for the end of the ritual.


  • Sit out in nature, in a safe area, with the wide sky out in front of you or in front of a private altar.
  • It is preferable that you are in a place where you can be vocally expressive.
  • Bring sage, cedar, gems, colored cloth, candles, an offering, and other ritual items that might assist you in this ceremony.
  • To clear the main chakras and to prepare your body for clear channeling and spirit connections, it is helpful to do an hour of intensive, breath oriented yoga before beginning any aspect of this ritual. Kundalini breathwork is great for this.

Open with a prayer to your ancestors and all your relations. Ask that they remain with you as you attempt to manifest love and your highest good by performing this ritual.

Step 1

Picture the soul with whom you are seeking change and picture their face in the sky above and in front of you. Tell them you love them and appreciate the exchange that took place between you.

Step 2

Ask for forgiveness for anything that was not done cleanly between you. Forgive anything that you felt slighted by. Forgive yourself as well.

Step 3

Ask the guides of the face above to take back the gifts, talents, and attributes that you received while you were in contact. Give these gifts, talents, and attributes back freely and lovingly.

Step 4

Ask that her guides give back the gifts, talents, and attributes that you received while you were in contact. Receive these things with love and appreciation.

Step 5

Send that person from your soul with love and appreciation. Send them off to do their highest good.

Step 6

Ask that God/Universe change the book of life regarding your relationship. Ask that your filter become the new channel for which you to receive the love you experienced. Picture your filter to the right of the person you are working with, seeing them next to each other.

Step 7

Ask your filter to sever the silver cord that binds you to this person. Request of your filter that he/she becomes the new channel for the love that was once enjoyed.

Step 8

By performing this ritual, you must agree to accept any changes that might take place in your heart, mind, life, and universe. There will be change. Sometimes subtle, sometimes huge.

Step 9

Thank your filter and the person. Close your eyes and send love to the person as they vanish from your sight and heart. Open your eyes to focus on your filter and the love that pours from his/her being. Pray to fully experience and internalize the love from your filter.

Step 10

Leave an offering in the woods. Chocolate, tobacco, cornmeal, foods, sage or other herbs are perfect offerings.

If you have any questions, please schedule a session with Paul HERE.



About Paul

Paul Wagner is a Consciousness, Life, and Business Coach, and a 5-time EMMY-Award winning writer. He created THE PERSONALITY CARDS, a powerful Oracle and Tarot deck that’s helpful in life, love, and relationships. For years, Paul studied with Lakota elders in the Pecos Wilderness, who nurtured his empathic abilities and taught him the sacred rituals. He has degrees from Boston College in Computer Science and Psychology. Mr. Wagner has lived at ashrams with enlightened masters, including Amma, the Hugging Saint, for whom he’s delivered keynotes at Her worldwide events. Paul tours the world lecturing about personal expansion and spiritual freedom. He lovingly offers intuitive readings and inspirational coaching to help you with self-discovery, decision-making, forgiveness, and business. Book a session with Paul.


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