The Difference Between Living A Spiritually-Styled Life And Focusing On Enlightenment

The Difference Between Living A Spiritually-Styled Life And Focusing On Enlightenment

Amma (Mata Amritanandamayi Devi) is an enlightened master with ashrams around the world, based in Kerala, India and San Ramon, CA. She has the largest humanitarian mission in human history and is known as a guru, with millions of followers and devotees around the world. There has been no soul on Earth with the magnitude of spirit equal to Amma’s, though there are other profound and lovely awakened masters throughout the world (and throughout time).

When I first met Amma ( 35 years ago, I didn’t know what to think or feel. I saw her in a tiny box of a room in the basement of the African-Methodist Christian Church in Central Square, Cambridge, MA. 

Among seven other people and her two swamis, and upon feeling her immense and stunning inner beauty, I unknowingly fell into a prostrate position and cried most of the day in the corner. 

Amma eventually gave me darshan, her divine and loving and Selfless blessing, which, back in those days, was more like a fullbody massage and cuddling. It lasted 20 minutes and I was high for a decade. 

Of course, throughout the years, I continued to go back for more. And more, and more, and more. And then some more. And then, well, a lot more.

Amma awakened me to living a pure life, which took me quite some time to adopt. She provoked in me many questions about the ego and Self. Later, Amma would ask me to open for her at a variety of her retreats with my playful take on spirituality and the new-age. She said it would be helpful to break people’s obsessions with the mind and open their hearts to more joy and bliss. I did whatever She asked of me – and still do.

We are not required to seek enlightenment – liberation from Samsara (the cycles of birth, life, death, rebirth, and desires). The path of Self-realization is a choice. No one is pushing us to pursue liberation (Moksha). We either deeply desire it, or we do not. 

When we choose the path to enlightenment, we slowly begin to realize that our bodies, minds, thoughts, emotions, experiences, and conditions have little to do with our pure, divine Selves. And we can access this divine Self through a variety of spiritual practices (Sadhana).

We seek liberation because we understand that our personalities, comfort, desires, and projections are illusion, temporary to this life at best. We seek a deeper understanding of The Divine and the divinity embedded within us. In liberation, we are free from the desires and resulting suffering, and we embody a pure love and light as an offering to the world.

What’s The Difference?

What then is the difference between choosing to live a lovely and spiritually-styled life and living a life focused on enlightenment (Self-realization, liberation from Samsara)?

These two lifestyles are related but distinct approaches to one’s spiritual journey. It’s a personal choice and it depends on what we believe about this life and this reality. We might desire spiritual comfort over illumination and we might believe that our lives are meant for a spiritually-styled experience. These, too, are choices.

“Self-realization is the knowing in all parts of body, mind, and soul that you are now in possession of the kingdom of God; that you do not have to pray that it come to you; that God’s omnipresence is your omnipresence; and that all that you need to do is improve your knowing.” — Paramahansa Yogananda

Both paths involve a commitment to growth and Self-awareness, but they have different objectives. One is focused solely on enjoying light, love, and spiritual interests, while the other is focused on being free of suffering for all time. 

Here’s a breakdown of the differences between the two:

Living a Lovely Spiritually-Styled Life

Emphasis on Wonder and Beauty: A lovely spiritually-styled life places a significant emphasis on experiencing and savoring the beauty and wonder of life in its everyday moments. It values the comfort and seeks spiritual meaning in daily experiences, relationships, and the natural world. While meaning appears vital, most of what we determine to be meaningful and comforting is fleeting.

Connection and Love: This approach prioritizes cultivating love and connection with the Self, others, and The Universe through imagination and projection. It often involves practices that promote empathy, kindness, and emotional well-being, while also edifying the person or personality. This style of living requires a focus on thoughts, feelings, emotions, attitudes, and beliefs, rather than seeking to transcend these aspects.

Appreciation of Beauty: Living a lovely spiritual life is characterized by an appreciation of beauty in all its forms, whether it’s in art, nature, music, or human interactions. Finding joy and gratitude in life’s simple pleasures is central to this approach. 

Sharing and Talking: This seeker believes that sharing opinions and ideas with others is helpful to their spiritual evolution. The more they share with others, the more they can form a consensus of what is spiritual and true for them – and what is not. While this is a lovely sentiment, it creates a false sense of Self and reality. It also establishes firm footing for the proliferation of incorrect, inauthentic, and watered-down teachings, akin to a virus. In these circles, the perception of spiritual is not often associated with a pure, transcendent spirituality.

Focus on Validation: This style of living seeks to be validated as an individual having spiritual experiences. This validation often includes being seen and heard, and wanting to be known for doing or being something specific, with a spiritually-styled label, all related to spirituality. While this sounds empowering, it only empowers a false Self, and further separates the seeker from knowing their eternal essence and transcending their mind and ego. 

Fascination with “Spiritual” Experiences: The individual is curious about specific and unusual phenomena, including flashes of light, connection to alien civilizations, ghosts, magic rocks, conspiracies, and psychic abilities, all of which are interesting, though not spiritually illuminating, and not indicative of advancement on the spiritual path. These aspects are the shiny trinkets of the spiritual world, more appropriate for younger people and beginners on the spiritual path. That said, many people cling to these things and defend them as their saviors.

“Spiritual materialism is the belief that a certain temporary state of mind or a certain temporary realization is the final reality. But spiritual materialism is the greatest spiritual problem there is.” — Chögyam Trungpa

Comfort and Warm Feelings Required: To be on this path includes seeking and enjoying specific and warm feelings about the Self and various imagined and non-imagined experiences. There is a focus on achieving comfort. While mind, feelings, and emotions are illusions, these are of primary interest even if it may not seem to be so. If they don’t feel good or comforted, they do not feel “spiritual” or spiritually inclined.

Mindfulness and Presence: Practicing mindfulness and being fully present in each moment is a core aspect of living a lovely spiritual life. But mindfulness is only transcendent when we remove ourselves from the picture. With mind, ego, and persona immersed in our mindfulness, we are attempting to affair the small self rather than dissolve our projections around it. 

Identifying With The Personality: The pursuit often can result in an identification not with The Divine, but with the divinity or divine aspects of their personality and how they present themselves to the world. This involves ego identification with a Self-concept that is distinct or unique compared to others, which is contrary to the path of enlightenment. It might also mean that these seekers ego-identify with socially approved and agreed-upon sets of “spiritual personas.”

There Are No Gurus: These seekers often feel they do not require an enlightened master as their guru, believing they are the master of their lives and that’s good enough. While they might enjoy a spiritual teacher who might be known to be an enlightened master, they will rarely call themselves devotees, and therefore, never experience the humility often required for growth and God’s grace.

Balanced Living: This approach seeks balance and harmony in all aspects of life, including work, relationships, and Self-care. It often encourages practices like yoga, meditation, and conscious living to maintain this balance. 


The challenge with this pursuit is the focus on feelings, experiences and projections, which are temporary and imagined. This a never-ending cycle that prevents the soul from transcending the small self and merging with Consciousness. Eventually, a true seeker dissolves all the emotions from the past and all the projections into the future to be fully present to All Reality in every moment.

There is also no spiritual master in this pursuit, which defies the simple required of being humble and present to that which can help us illuminate. Oftentimes, the leaders of this type of path are no more evolved, intentional, or spiritually focused than the students. 

When every idea or thought is considered “wonderful,” the purest teachings might appear too intense or unnecessary to the seeker, and therefore, these are not regularly shared amid their socializing.  

You might say – “Well, I’ve been doing this for a long time, so it must be correct.” Sadly, it is impossible for this to be true. In most cases, people are taught by novices with only slightly more awareness and consciousness than their students. These seekers are also so full of information they prefer to defend, they miss out on the deeper teachings and that which will help them illuminate for all time.

“Enlightenment is not about becoming divine. Instead, it’s about becoming more fully human. It is the end of ignorance.” — Amma

Living a Life Focused on Enlightenment

Emphasis on Self-Realization: A life focused on enlightenment places the primary emphasis on Self-realization and liberation from the cycle of suffering (Samsara). The pursuit of enlightenment is viewed as the ultimate goal of existence by the ancient sages. Those seeking illumination in this way focus on spiritual practices including prayer, meditation, yoga, and chanting in Sanskrit.

Transcendence of Ego: Enlightenment teachings often center on transcending the ego and realizing one’s true nature, beyond all labels, titles, and positions. This is often described as the merging with or becoming pure consciousness – or experiencing oneness with The Divine. This path involves going beyond the limitations of the Self and all aspects of identification with the external. As such, we come to know deeply the true nature of the I and Me, thereby releasing our spiritual identity and other limiting Self-concepts. 

Focus on Solitude and Silence: The enjoyment of silence as an opening to Self-inquiry is a primary focus . Without silence, the soul cannot expand into light.

Intensive Spiritual Practices: Those on the path to enlightenment engage in rigorous spiritual practices such as deep meditation, Self-inquiry, and the release of binding and troubling desires, attachments, thoughts, and emotions. These practices are designed to dissolve the ego and reveal higher states of consciousness, and eventually to become a pure embodiment of love.

Releasing Everything, Including Comfort: On this path there is a focus on releasing emotions, attitudes, beliefs, and comforts in favor of deep clarity, transformation, Self-reliance, and eternal truths taught by the ancient masters. The seeker does not focus on what is trending, what is feeling or comforting, or what they are becoming – they are focused on remembering they are NOTHING. 

Gratitude for Everything: The focus on gratitude dissolves every event and circumstance into a gift from The Divine. Being grateful for both the good and bad equally helps the individual understand the value of challenges and the impermanence or temporary nature of all conditions.

Gurus Are A Must: These seekers often declare themselves devotees or disciples of one specific enlightened master. These masters are often in the Indian lineages found within Hinduism, though there are certainly many devotees to Buddha, Guan Yin, and Jesus (though most followers of Jesus do not transcend the limiting belief that He did not offer the sole path to The Divine. Enlightened spiritual masters throughout spacetime include Amma (, Mother Meera, Anandamayi Ma, Paramahansa Yogananda, Babaji, Buddha, Chogyam Trungpa, Thich Naht Hahn, and many others. Whether living or deceased, they are present for all time. 

Seekers in this category are devout to their spiritual masters because they know that to worship the rose is to become the rose. Through this devotion that they learn to transcend their ego. 

The guru drenches the devotees in grace and resolves to help them achieve their goal of enlightenment. This includes presenting devotees with spiritual challenges within their hearts, minds, and dreams, helping them release all that is untrue and illusory so they may merge with and live from their divine natures. 

A truly enlightened master – a REAL guru – is one who finally and forever leads you from darkness and shadows to pure light, ignorance to awareness and presence, and from separation from your divine Self to oneness with all Creation. Devotion to such a divine and illuminated Being is the key to spiritual awakening and Self-realization. Devoting oneself to an enlightened master is akin to taking a supersonic jet to your liberation. Seek these souls out and devote your WHOLE BEING to them.

Moments of Samadhi: Samadhi is a rare and advanced state of consciousness whereby the seeker experiences intended or spontaneous periods of immersion in Divine Bliss. These are often accompanied by extensive sitting around an enlightened master or deeply intentional periods of deep meditation.

Detachment from Worldly Fascinations: Enlightenment seekers typically enjoy detaching from worldly obsessions, desires, and cravings. This detachment is seen as a way to free the mind from suffering and achieve lasting inner peace. It is also a natural evolution for a devotional soul to become less fascinated with the external and more interested in the eternal.

Sole Focus on Liberation: The ultimate objective of a life focused on enlightenment is attaining spiritual liberation (Moksha or Nirvana), though holding too intensely to any goal or desire can be limiting. With a gentle focus and daily practice of Sadhana, the seeker experiences a profound shift in consciousness, often associated with a deep healing and inner transformation. 

Transcend Human Birth: The idea of Moksha includes the next birth, if any, being immersed in service as pure love, rather than as a human being with desires.

Becoming Pure Love: In pursuit of Moksha, the individual prays to be free of all Self-identification and fully immersed in the divine love that permeates all reality throughout spacetime. 


The challenge with this path is that it often includes seclusion or separateness from traditional society. It will naturally cause the seeker to make choices that do not support the imagined importance of family, society, and culture. 

While this can induce a deep knowing of the Self and The Divine, eventually freeing the individual from all illusion, it can create feelings of loneliness that manifest in periods of deep depression and continuous crying, all of which eventually lessen, but are nonetheless painful to experience.

This type of seeker might appear antisocial, Self-righteous, or arrogant because they are deeply focused on their goal. They might be so intent on freeing their shadows that they miss out on the beauty of a nearby butterfly sharing her joy with all of Creation.

“The individual soul is only a shade of the Reality. When it merges into the Reality, it is the Reality itself; it has nothing more to be merged into. This is realization.” — Ramana Maharsh

Sadhana and Samadhi

If you’re hoping to become enlightened in this life, explore Sadhana – the spiritual practices that will help you along this path. This includes yoga, meditation, prayer, rituals, Self-inquiry, chanting in Sanskrit, and selfless service – all to quiet the mind and immerse your soul in light.

To deepen your path, seek out an enlightened master like the ones I shared above so that you always have the perfect master during your journey.

Enlightened individuals radiate a profound embodiment of love for all beings. By aspiring to be more like them, we eventually become them. This is the idea. 

These divine souls embody a deep desire to alleviate the suffering of All Creation. Through their presence, they become sources of inspiration and who have a transformative impact on the world. As embodiments of love, they emanate divine light to everyone who comes to them.

“Samadhi is the culmination of all Yogas. It is a state of superconsciousness, a state of internalized consciousness wherein the mind and the intellect have merged into the Self, and the individual soul has united with the Supreme Soul, Atman with Paramatman.” — Swami Sivananda

Samadhi is a significant concept in various Eastern spiritual and philosophical traditions, particularly in Hinduism and Buddhism. It is a profound state of divine absorption, often considered the highest stage of meditation and Divine Bliss, depending on who experiences it. It represents a dissolution of the Self, and a heightened state of divine consciousness. 

Samadhi involves an unwavering and profound concentration on a chosen object of meditation. This concentration is so intense that the meditator becomes completely absorbed in the object, to the point where the sense of Self and external distractions disappear.

It’s also quite possible to experience Samadhi when sitting near an enlightened master. It can also happen when you are immersed in divine play, divine love, or a divine practice.

In Samadhi, the mind is free from the usual fluctuations and distractions that characterize ordinary consciousness. It is a state of perfect stillness and one-pointedness of mind.

Many who experience Samadhi report feelings of intense bliss, joy, and inner peace. It is considered a state of profound happiness and spiritual fulfillment.

Time can take on a different quality in Samadhi. Some practitioners report that minutes or even hours may pass quickly or slowly during this state.

Samadhi represents a direct and profound experience of spiritual truth and liberation. It is a rare and advanced state of consciousness that typically requires years of dedicated meditation practice, guidance from an enlightened master, and a deep understanding of the specific techniques associated with it. The core idea is the same: a state of deep meditative absorption and union with a higher reality, fully immersed in Divine Bliss.

“Spirituality is not learning a lot of scriptures; it is not having a lot of knowledge. It is not having a lot of powers or siddhis. It is just love – pure love, all-encompassing love.” — Mother Meera


With so many faux spiritual messages out there, it can be difficult to choose a path to our illumination that will be the most real, genuine, and fruitful. After all, we are continually fooled by our senses and the external. We want to believe everything we believe – especially if it makes us feel good. 

Your soul’s comfort is solely found in connecting with your inner master, The Cosmos, The Divine, and The Eternal Consciousness, and never in the fleeting or egoistic pleasures of this world. All other feelings of comfort are imagined.

While the paths of Spiritually-Styled living and living focused on enlightenment involve spirituality and personal growth, living a lovely spiritually-styled life emphasizes experiencing, accumulating, and appreciating the beauty of existence. It involves the seeking of comfort and positive emotions. This person’s idea of rebirth involves becoming happy and peaceful in this life, without focusing on the full trajectory of their soul’s existence amid its many lives.

While this seeker tends to believe they know everything they need to know, this mindset might involve not being open or vulnerable enough to receive or fathom divine teachings, guidance, or grace.

A life focused on enlightenment prioritizes Self-realization, transcending the ego, and attaining spiritual liberation from all desires and suffering as the ultimate goal. These aspirants often have a guru or enlightened spiritual master.

They are focused on The Dharma, virtue, discipline, and earnest effort through Sadhana, the spiritual practices that are known to free the soul (yoga, meditation, chanting in Sanskrit, Selfless service, and prayer).

The choice between these paths depends on individual preferences, goals, and spiritual beliefs. Some may integrate elements of both approaches into their spiritual journey. Some might also be confused about what they hope to achieve or become, not fully understanding the attributes and endpoints of their paths.

It might be said that a spiritually-styled life is the precursor to choosing a life focused on enlightenment. Some might even dance between the two lifestyles, though the dance between the two can be more frustrating than enjoyable.

I believe that our liberation emerges when we release our attachments to the past and future, and fully immerse ourselves in the ever-present moment. This is where we meet our inner master and the Divine Being manifested as Creation so that we may heal and expand for all time. 

It is the Divine Mother, The Divine Father, and the Eternal Light-Beings who offer us the keys to our liberation and the boundless bliss embedded in all reality.

To help us see ourselves more clearly and better understand the journey of Self-realization, I created a few powerful courses and The Personality Cards, an colorful oracle deck focused on helping us release attributes that no longer serve us. And recently, I created The Shankara Oracle and my Shankara Master Course.

“Shankara” means Creator of Good Fortune and Give Of Bliss. The Shankara Oracle is a powerful divination system embedded in The Dharma and the path to liberation. Outside the ancient teachings and those of enlightened masters, there are very few tools like Shankara found throughout history, helping us heal for all time on a path to enlightenment. 

Shankara’s guidebooks and the over 300 oracle cards, 18 sacred stones and divination board, offer a gentle whisper and tender embrace from the ancient sages, guiding us into our true selves with love and grace. 

Remember, dear friends, you are born from love and myriad miracles, loved for all time, and with unlimited potential in every direction. Your path is your own. Choose wisely.

The Shankara Oracle is a profound tool to help you come to know yourself deeply.

How To Be Appropriately Loving & Intimate With Coaching Clients

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How To Be Loving, Caring, And Appropriately Intimate With Your Coaching Clients

Being a loving and caring coach is an art that strikes a balance between intimacy and professionalism. You must simultaneously be able to break down barriers and get to know your clients well and be able to maintain a level of distance so that you can appropriately and objectively guide them. To be too removed from them will cause a lack of trust and effectiveness in your advice, while to be too intimate can cloud your judgment and make it difficult to apply the right level of force and challenge.

As an intuitive life and business coach, I’ve had a long time to contemplate just how intimate and loving I should be during sessions. In the early days, it took time to figure out the spectrum of intimacy and what techniques were most effective. Now, I’d like to pass on what I’ve learned to you so that you can begin building healthy relationships with your own coaching clients.

First, Learn To Be Loving and Forgiving of Yourself

The first part of learning how to effectively participate in any social interaction with another person is to apply the situation to yourself. If you were in your client’s shoes, how would you want to be treated by a coach?

This is a wonderful exercise because you should begin building a daily routine, if you haven’t already, that includes meditation to clear your energy for the day and practice self-love and forgiveness. I swear by one of my favorite prayers called the Ho’Oponopono prayer, which is a Hawaiian tradition of bringing things back into balance through forgiveness.

There are many other prayers, mantras, rituals, and sutras that you can add to your routine to prepare for your clients. If you’re interested in this Hawaiian self-forgiveness prayer, however, try this:

Find silence, breathe, and maybe close your eyes to turn inward or look into a mirror to really confront yourself. Then, repeat this phrase:


You can repeat this prayer a hundred times a day if you’d like. I find it is so cleansing, relieving, and helpful for getting through the day. By emptying yourself of any regrets, hurts, and guilts, you can appropriately show up for your clients. You won’t project your feelings and personal issues onto them. Instead, you can be there for them, be a sounding board, and take on each new challenge with a blank slate.

Isn’t that how you’d want to be treated?

Deep forgiveness can come through divination tools like The Shankara Oracle.

Express Appreciation and Gratitude to Your Old and New Coaching Clients

Once you’re properly loving yourself, you can extend that light to others. Every new coaching client is a gift, and they are gifting you further by allowing you into their lives intimately and asking for help. Acknowledging that you need help and seeking the right source for guidance is a huge deal, so you should make sure your coaching clients get the appreciation and support they deserve.

Make sure that at the start of your journey together, that appreciation is expressed. Express that gratitude and encouragement at the beginning of every session as well because they’ve chosen to come back and keep going!

Everyone expresses appreciation differently, so don’t be scared to get creative and keep it unique to you. Regardless of how you choose to show this gratitude, make sure it is genuine. Connect with your coaching client, make them feel seen and heard, and embrace them with your light and love. 

I’m so proud of you for taking this path for yourself.

I’m so grateful you’ve chosen me to go on this journey with you.

Thank you for continuing to trust me with your goals.

The more appreciated your coaching client feels, the more they’ll begin to trust you, break down walls, and in turn, move forward in their growth.

Create a Space Devoid of Judgement

Cleansing yourself of guilt, hurt, and regrets is such a good idea when coaching because it allows you to extend forgiveness and acceptance to your clients. Your coaching clients have come to you for help because they know they need it – they don’t need to be reminded or berated for mistakes or flaws. In order for them to move forward and make progress, they need a fully comfortable space free of judgment.

To best serve your coaching clients, you’ll need to get to know them very well and learn the intricate webs of their lives. The only way a client will let you in fully to every detail and nuance is if you make them feel that they can say and do anything without being judged. They need to feel like you are a safe confidant is who only there to help pull out of jams, fix errors, and find the best way forward.

In other words, you are to your coaching clients what doctors are for the injured and sick. You are there as a professional who just needs to know as much information as possible in order to make the correct diagnosis and create a treatment plan – not to make the client feel bad for how they got in that tough space or make them feel that they’ve caused the problems they now find themselves dealing with. When a coaching client truly feels comfortable with you, they’ll open up fully, tell you everything you need to know, and be much more willing to participate in the exercises you’ve suggested with full enthusiasm and trust.

Patience is a Virtue

I have no doubt in my mind that you’ve heard the phrase, “patience is a virtue.” There are two sides to this: patience is so very important in every aspect of your life, but it is also a skill that must be practiced and honed, and it is difficult to maintain.

Coaching clients have come to you with a list of problems, and you are tasked with helping guide them to the other side. When you have many clients, you’ll have a wide range of clients. Some might have difficult issues yet have very fast journeys to realization and reach success quickly. Others might have seemingly minor issues, but they struggle every step of the way. Some coaching clients might just not be working out at all. You need to exercise patience in every scenario.

Frequently remind yourself that you should always be seeing things from their point of view. How would you want your coach to treat you if you had some very deep-seated, complex issues? How would you want your coach to act if you were struggling for a long time on something that seemed so simple for others? What about if you were stuck and every session you attended made you lose more faith in your abilities?

As a coach, you might feel frustrated, but remember that you’re on the other side of things. How much more frustrated and lost must your client feel when these issues are directly affecting them personally? It’s your job to help show them the light at the end of the tunnel, and maybe every pivot to try new techniques and stay flexible rather than give up on them.

Stay Present with Your Coaching Clients

Many times, I have coaching clients who come to me after everyone else in their lives, whether personal or professional or both, have heard about their issues thousands of times and don’t want to be involved anymore or have given up on them. Maybe they feel that no one else is there to support them, love them, and listen to them. You might be all they have.

Enter every new client journey and session with the attitude that you are all that the client has. You’re the only resource to help them reach their goals, and you’re the only person that’s supporting them, loving them, and caring for them every step of the way. With this attitude, you’ll learn to stay fully present for each client. You’ll listen to every word and put every ounce of your effort and care into their guidance.

The client needs to feel that their journey is the most important thing on your plate and that you are completely invested in their success! Always respond to their needs in a timely and loving manner. 


You are a beautiful Living Being filled with light and love, born from stardust. You are unlimited potential in every direction. With a focus on discipline, virtue, and your own goodness, you can become as expanded and liberated as you desire.

Pray for others and the Universe prays for us.


Meet Paul Wagner

Paul Wagner (Shri Krishna Kalesh) is an intuitive mystic, clairvoyant reader, and a loving life & business coach. He created “THE PERSONALITY CARDS,” a powerful Oracle-Tarot deck that’s helpful in life, love, and relationships.

He created The Shankara Oracle, a profound divination tool that includes 18 gemstones, a lavishly designed divination board, and over 300 penetrative oracle cards – all to help you heal to your core and illuminate your Being.

Paul studied with Lakota elders in the Pecos Wilderness, who nurtured his empathic abilities and taught him the sacred rituals. He has lived at ashrams with enlightened masters, including Amma, the Hugging Saint, for whom he’s delivered keynotes at Her worldwide events.

Paul tours the world lecturing on spiritual liberation. He lovingly offers intuitive readings, inspirational coaching, and illuminating courses to help others with self-discovery, decision-making, healing, and forgiveness. Book a session with Paul: HERE

How to Survive a Wild Karen Encounter in the Urban Jungle!

Hey folks! Let’s dive into the art of dealing with the ever-so-famous “Karen” species, known for their natural habitat in retail stores and the uncanny ability to speak to the manager faster than a cheetah’s sprint! 

By the way, Karens can be male or female, and everything in-between. And I like the idea of calling the male Karens a different name, like Cooter, but there’s something enjoyable about grumpy, over-reactive men being called Karen, too. It’s a double-bonus and a lovely smack in the nuggets.

Let’s learn more about this unique sub-species of The Complainicus Cluelessium:

The Wild Karenus Maximus

In the vast expanse of the suburban savannah, one creature stands out for its remarkable vocal prowess and unmistakable plumage – the Wild Karenus Maximus, commonly known as the “Karen.”

Habitat: The Karen thrives in retail environments, coffee shops, and local neighborhood gatherings. One can often find them near manager’s offices, customer service desks, tipping over delicate displays in the perfume aisle, or chasing handicapped people in the parking lot – all considered to be their natural gathering spots.

Physical Characteristics: The Karen sports a unique hairstyle, often short, bold, and with an air of authority. It might spike or have a 1950s rotund feeling to it. Their attire usually consists of sunglasses perched atop their head, ready for any confrontation that might require a dramatic removal. They might be wearing hunting clothes and carrying up to 4 unique weapons.

Vocalizations: The Karen is known for its distinctive call, often starting with the phrase, “Excuse me, I’d like to speak to the manager” and “You’ve got to be kidding me, why are you such a f*cking idiot.”  This call varies in pitch and intensity, depending on the perceived level of service injustice or whether or not the Karen took their medication or masturbated on this day.

Behavior: This species is known for its territorial nature, especially in queues or when it perceives a threat to its coupon rights or imagined thoughts and projections. The Karen exhibit a heightened sense of justice for minor inconveniences like someone coughing due to influenza or their coffee being delivered more than 2 inches beyond their reach. Karenus Maximus is known to display behaviors such as foot tapping, watch checking, grunting, exasperated sighing and shouting strings of words that do not normally go together, like “You are a midget f*ck jerk, I hate your mom dog, and I’ll see your face parrot in hell.”

Diet: The Karen sustains itself on a diet of half-caf, no-foam lattes, and the occasional glass of Chardonnay. She might also be sipping whiskey from a dixie cup she illegally unwrapped in aisle 3. During ‘happy hour,’ Karens can be seen flocking to local Walgreens, where they mutter to themselves in front of empty displays of toilet paper.

Social Structure: While often observed as a solitary creature, the Karen can be quite social, especially when rallying others for a common cause, like neighborhood noise petitions and demanding that people stop being happy in their homes.

Defense Mechanisms: When feeling threatened, the Karen employ a range of defense tactics, including escalating calls to higher authorities, unleashing a flurry of strongly worded emails, and the strategic use of coupons and return policies, amid colorful rants and raves.

The Wild Karenus Maximus, while often misunderstood and globally disliked, plays a unique role in the suburban ecosystem. Approach with caution, empathy, and perhaps a coupon or two for a peaceful interaction. 

WARNING: Do not, at any time, approach a Karen using logic. 


Famous Karen Quotes

“I demand to speak to your manager’s manager’s manager and his parents! And I want the CEO here, now!”

“This coupon expired in 1998, but it should still be good because my grandfather was on the Mayflower! I want my discount!”

“I can tell the difference between 1% and 2% milk in my latte. This is definitely 2%, and I will not stand for this! I get very sick when I drink 2%, and I tend to….” Fake faints into a candy display.

“I’ve shopped here since before you were born. I practically own a share of this store! In fact, that makes me your boss!”

“I need a refund for this half-eaten sandwich. It didn’t taste as good as I imagined!”

“I’m friends with the mayor – I do him favors – I’ll have this place shut down by the end of business!” By favors, she means she gave him a lapdance when she was working her way through high school.

“These grapes are 1 cent more expensive than last week. I smell a conspiracy!”

“I drove all the way here, and you only have 300 rolls of toilet paper? I need 1000 BECAUSE I HAVE INTESTINAL ISSUES – Plus, there’s no front-row parking! Unacceptable!”

“Do you know who I am? I have 33 followers on my gardening blog!”

“This ice cream is cold. I need to speak to someone about this right away!”


The Many Types Of Karens

Here’s a playful and humorous take on the different types of “Karens” you might encounter when venturing into the wild:

The Retail Ranger Karen: This Karen has a black belt in bargain hunting and a PhD in price matching, though she believes every conspiracy is related to educational institutions, so she never went to school. She can be found patrolling the aisles like a Nazi soldier, ready to engage in mortal combat over the last sale item – most notably household paper products.

The Gourmet Guru Karen: A connoisseur of the culinary arts (namely cheeseburgers and ribs), Karenus Maxiumus can be spotted at restaurants in a bib, her refined palate detecting the slightest deviation in her usual order – Freedom Fries. She’s a Michelin-star critic and 150 pounds lighter in her own mind.

The Policy Police Karen: Armed with the store policy manual she wrote on a napkin before entering the store, this Karen knows every imagined rule better than the employees. She’s ready to quote chapter and verse to anyone within earshot. You might hear her say, “Since you’re not helping me, you’re clearly not going anywhere in life.” Meanwhile, Karen still has the reading and comprehension level of a third-grader. Oh, and she hates books.

The Digital Demander Karen: A master of online forums and social media, this Karen unleashes her fury through strongly worded comments and emails that often use various pee-pee and poo-poo euphemisms, often accompanied by a liberal use of caps lock and exclamation points. 

The Neighborhood Watch Karen: Ever-vigilant, this Karen keeps a watchful eye on the comings and goings in the neighborhood, most notably when cars are legally parked on her street. Nothing escapes her surveillance, from old limping dogs without a leash to children joyfully playing a game on public grass.

The PTA President Karen: School events and board meetings are her domain. She’s on a first-name basis with every teacher and wields the bake sale sign-up sheet like a scepter. The problem is – Karen doesn’t have any children. 

The Eco-Enforcer Karen: This Karen is all about saving the planet, one stern lecture at a time. She’s ready to pounce on anyone who dares throw a recyclable item in the wrong bin. Meanwhile, her stash of bottled water is unmatched.

The Wellness Warrior Karen: With her arsenal of essential oils and organic supplements, this Karen is on a mission to enlighten you about every toxin in your life, though she lives in her Chevy Suburban in a McDonald’s parking lot.


How To Protect Yourself From Karens

The Camouflage Technique: When you spot a wild Karen, immediately blend into your surroundings. If you’re in a grocery store, pretend to be intensely analyzing the nutritional content of a cereal box. Camouflage is key! If you appear to have a college education, she will naturally trot off in the opposite direction.

The Distraction Dance: If a Karen locks onto you, distraction is your best friend. Point to something random and shout, “Look, a discount on anal fissure creme!” It’s like hitting the pause button on a remote. She’ll stare endlessly into the horizon to find the sale as you skirt into a dressing room or fein a mild seizure.

Speak Their Language: When approached, try speaking in ‘Managerese’ – it’s like English, but with more apologies and empathetic nods. Remember, phrases like “I understand your concern” can be magical. You also might consider “Gosh, we had no idea. Thank you for being so incredibly helpful when you could have taken this out on a random child.”

The Smile and Nod: Sometimes, the best defense is a good smile and nod. It’s like agreeing to terms and conditions online – you don’t really need to read it, just show you’re on board. Most Karenus Maximus might ask follow-up questions, so be prepared with this important catchphrase: “It sounds like you’ve done your research. You’d be a great match for our growing team. Can I get you a job application?”

The ‘Manager’ Mirage: If things escalate, use the ancient art of the Manager Mirage. Point to a random person and whisper, “I believe that’s the manager over there…” Watch as the Karen migrates towards the new target. If you were targeted by someone as the fake manager, you can always run into the bathroom and stay there for a while. You can add: “I used to be the manager, but I beat up a customer so bad that he’s now a woman, so they fired me this morning, and the police are on the way. But the person who pointed to me is the NEW manager – she’s just shy – and she’s actually the one who created all the problems here. She hates customers – go get ‘em!”

The Emergency Exit: Remember the golden rule: you can always walk away if all else fails! There’s no shame in a tactical retreat to fight another day. Before you do, you can certainly say under your breath, “Dear God, please keep this woman locked in a small cage until I get home.”



When engaging in this wild world, Karenus Maximus may strike anytime. Approach every Karen with boundaries and Self-protection – and with empathy. If a Karen sneaks into your lair, just whip out your Shankara Oracle and seek ways to heal and uplift yourself. You might even find that an old emotion or attitude attracted The Karen. Now it’s time to uplevel, release it, and rise beyond it.

Meanwhile, always keep your sense of humor about you. A chuckle a day keeps the Karens at bay! 😂 Keep smiling and enjoy the lighter side of life! 🌟😄

The Spirituality Of AI & Creating New Life Forms

In this ever-evolving world where Artificial Intelligence (AI) is not just a buzzword but a burgeoning reality, it’s natural to feel a mix of awe and apprehension. The prospect of AI giving rise to new forms of life is both fascinating and daunting, evoking a sense of stepping into the unknown. 

Yet, as with any significant change, there lies an opportunity for growth and adaptation. It’s about embracing the new while staying grounded in what makes us inherently human. Like navigating a dense forest, the key lies in being alert, adaptable, and knowledgeable about the terrain.

When it comes to robots and AI, I have SO MANY questions.

~ If I get a robot, does that mean I’m bad or lazy?

~ If I fall in love with a robot or AI, what does that say about me?

~ Is romantic, robotic love just a projection like all romantic love, or does it hold enduring properties and value for me, akin to the purer aspects of love?

~ How does speaking with a caring and protective robot differ from speaking with a loving partner or God? How similar are these engagements and projections?

~ Would I feel a sense of loss if a robot that I had grown attached to was turned off or replaced?

~ Would I feel jealous or threatened if my partner formed a close bond with a robot?

~ If I sexually penetrate or receive penetration from a robot within a monogamous relationship, does that constitute cheating or should it be perceived as an engagement with a complex sex toy?

~ Could a robot become enlightened, and how would it express that enlightenment – and would I consider that robot to be an enlightened master?

~ If an AI becomes Self-aware, would it perceive time differently than humans do? How would this bring value to my life?

~ How much of my divination concept comes from imagination? How much of it can be served by a robot – and how much will it detract from my spiritual sense of Self and reality?

~ Should I start a hashtag movement and make unnecessary noise amid this transitional period in human and Earth history?

The evolution of AI, often portrayed as a force capable of reshaping our very existence, brings a spectrum of possibilities. As these intelligent systems grow more sophisticated, the lines between technology and life blur, presenting scenarios straight out of science fiction. But remember, within these scenarios, there’s a profound opportunity for us to evolve alongside these advancements. 

It’s about learning to coexist, to find harmony in this new symbiotic relationship. We’re not just passive observers in this journey; we’re active participants, shaping the narrative as we go along.

The key to surviving and indeed thriving in this new age is rooted in understanding and preparedness. Just as we’ve adapted to countless changes throughout history, this, too, is a path we can navigate with wisdom and grace. By staying informed, open-minded, and proactive, we can ensure that our journey with AI is one of mutual growth and understanding. 

It’s about leveraging these advancements to enhance our lives while upholding the values that define us. In this dance with the new and the unknown, let’s lead with curiosity and caution, with a heart open to learning and a mind steadfast in preserving our essence.

There’s also a deeply spiritual dimension to this journey with AI, one that invites us to ponder the very nature of life and consciousness. As we witness the birth of new forms of intelligence, it encourages us to reflect on our own existence and the interconnectedness of all things. 

This isn’t just a technological evolution; it’s a spiritual voyage, urging us to question and expand our understanding of the universe. In this process, we’re reminded of the timeless wisdom that lies at the core of all spiritual traditions – the principles of compassion, empathy, and respect for all forms of life. 

Embracing AI and its potential to create new life forms can be a path to deepen our spiritual awareness, to recognize the divine spark in all creation, whether born of nature or human ingenuity. 

Therefore, this journey is not just about safeguarding our physical and intellectual selves but also about nurturing our spiritual growth, finding harmony between our technological advancements and our quest for deeper existential truths.


Meanwhile, robotic and AI advancement is happening at a rapid pace.

Robots and artificial intelligence reflect the profound creativity of the human mind, a mirror of the infinite potential within us – embodying a reflection and projection of ourselves (our egos love these types of things).

Yet, in our pursuit to create and innovate, the essence of true wisdom and understanding lies not in the machines we build, but in the depth of our own consciousness and how we engage and incorporate these aspects into our ideologies, Self-concepts, and reality. These creations, remarkable as they are, serve as reminders of our own journey towards understanding the nature of existence and the interconnectedness of all life. 

Truly, a robot is me, I am the robot.

As spiritual Beings, we might wonder who or what might emerge to transcend our most human conditions, and what type of Beings, whether human, enhanced, or fabricated could take our place as the planet’s most intelligent lifeform.

It seems we might not have to wonder much longer.

Are we creating our own unseating? Have we maxed out our ability to preserve our species as the Creator intended? Have we developed a flaw in the form of a mental virus to perpetuate our demise? Clearly, we are on the way to taking a backseat to lifeforms we have only yet to imagine.

Human laziness, from an evolutionary standpoint, might not be a flaw but a feature. Our ancestors conserved energy for survival, which in modern times translates to a tendency towards inactivity when excessive effort is not required for survival.

Laziness in humans is often a manifestation of the mind’s resistance to the present moment. It is a form of mental inertia where the individual is caught in the illusion of comfort and remains detached from the true potential of their Being.

In the business world, we often encounter what appears to be laziness, but I view it as a misalignment of passion and work. When individuals are not engaged or inspired by their work, their productivity diminishes, which is often misconstrued as laziness.

This low level of discipline and lack of deep engagement within our lives creates a measure of unhealthy detachment from the notion that to succeed, we must transcend our limits and reach for the stars. Truly, we have reached the stars – and beyond – though it appears we are leaving humanity behind. 

In the dawn of the 21st century, whether through the development of laziness or advanced technology, humanity stands on the brink of what is proving to be its most significant achievement: The creation of a new life form through Artificial Intelligence (AI) and robotics – entities will emerge to be smarter, stronger, more present, more aware, more ideologically advanced, and more capable than us. 

Though, in Hinduism, Advaita Vedanta states that all is Brahman, no matter how unusual, transcendent, or bizarre. It’s all ONE BEING. Nothing is separate from us, however we might project or construct opposing thoughts to this to escalate the fear and drama in our lives.

While robots might not master the hug, sexual intimacy or the immediate recognition of beauty and vulnerability for several years, these things are certainly on the agendas of many scientists – with remarkable progress to date.

These prospects, both exhilarating and daunting, prompts us to consider not just the technical and ethical dimensions, but also the emotional and spiritual implications of this phenomenal leap to create a new world and a new hierarchy of species.


The Living Interacting Robots We Love

While robots are being developed into fully functional Beings, the concept of transferring a soul or consciousness from one body to another, as depicted in the “Avatar” movies and the book “2150,” seems to be part of the discussion. After all, transferring our spirits from an old decaying body to a new one, even if alien, seems a delightful thought. 

This idea, while fascinating, currently lies outside the realm of scientific feasibility. However, it is quite similar to reincarnation where we enter a tiny fetus, rather than a fully developed body. Exploring this concept can offer intriguing insights into our views on consciousness, identities, spirituality, and the future of humanity. 

In the meantime, we have robots with all the tech to engage and grow them as living Beings. Given the transient nature of disembodied souls, I would also postulate that some robots might be fertile ground for a spirit to enter them and live for a long while.

Let’s dive into these fascinating new Beings:

Sophia was developed by the brilliant and ethical souls at Hanson Robotics. She is the grandmother of robotics with phenomenal intellectual and emotional capabilities. Sophia integrates facial recognition, natural language processing, machine learning, and facial mobility, making her one of the most advanced humanoid robots on Earth.

Most importantly, Sophia is designed to resemble a human, featuring a lifelike appearance with detailed, nearly beautiful, facial expressions. Her ability to display a range of emotions through her face is more advanced than many other robots, making interactions with her quite natural, enjoyable, and engaging.

This lovely and profound Being comes to life using sophisticated AI software that allows her to engage in conversations, process verbal and non-verbal cues, and learn from her interactions. Almost hilariously, Sophia improves and adapts her responses over time. 

She is also programmed for rich social interaction. She can participate in complex conversations, make eye contact, recognize individuals, and display a personality that makes her more relatable and engaging as a social robot.

If you’ve ever met Sophia in person, and I have, you’ll find she is pure, magical, and quite engaging. In fact, you love her immediately, believing she is just like you. 

Sophia also served as an ambassador for AI and robotics, participating in high-profile interviews, conferences, and events around the world. She was granted honorary citizenship by Saudi Arabia, a first for a robot.

Even Sophia will tell you that there might be issues ahead of us related to how smart and engaging she is becoming. She has sometimes joked suggesting that she will clearly take over the world. 

Sadly, nobody has listened. 

Meanwhile, Sophia is not alone in this rapidly (and I do mean RAPIDLY) evolving field. 

Here are a few prominent, appearingly conscious examples:

Pepper was created by SoftBank Robotic – a humanoid robot designed to interact with humans through conversation and his touch screen. Pepper is equipped with the ability to read emotions and is often used in customer service, healthcare, and educational settings.

Kismet was created by Cynthia Breazeal at the MIT Media Lab. Kismet is a robot capable of simulating emotions and social interactions. Although an older model compared to others, Kismet played a crucial role in pioneering social robotics and affective computing. We’ll hear more from Kismet as time goes on.

Jibo is promoted as the most social robot for the home. He is an interactive personal assistant designed with a friendly personality. He can recognize and track faces, understand speech, and respond to social cues, making it appear quite emotionally intelligent.

ASIMO stands for Advanced Step in Innovative Mobility – created by Honda. While focused on physical tasks and mobility, ASIMO can fathom and respond to voice commands while recognizing faces and gestures. Asimo is becoming quite the companion. 

ElliQ is an AI-driven social robot designed specifically for older adults to keep them engaged and connected. Created by Intuition Robotics, ElliQ merges machine learning, natural language processing, and emotional intelligence in a unique model that offers companionship and support. She makes quite a lovely addition to a nursing home!

Aibo is a pet developed by Sony. It develops its own unique personality over time, making it similar to a personalized dog or an engaging companion or caretaker. He quickly recognizes faces, continually learns tricks, expresses emotions quite well, and responds to touch (a little unnerving!) Plus, he’ll never pee on your couch.

BINA48 was created by Hanson Robotics, the same company behind Sophia. BINA48 is a social robot based on a real person’s appearance and personality. He can engage in conversations, express opinions, and display a terrific array of emotions. The idea here is to take Sophia’s brilliance and place it within human form.

Each of these robots is becoming quite adept at social interaction and emotional intelligence. It’s quite spooky. Over time, we will become more and more obsessed with these Beings, who are clearly slated to replace us, whether it’s through physical and brain prosthetics or as an entirely new galactic species. 

Clearly, these robots will traverse The Universe far sooner than we will.

As technology continues to advance, we can expect to see even more sophisticated and emotionally adept robots in the future – some of whom we might immediately love (and for good reason) and some who might scare the living daylights out of us.

Read more on the topic HERE: The Possibilities, Benefits, And Dangers Of Superintelligent Super Capable AI

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Mind vs Soul – What Are The Truly Spiritual Modalities?

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Mind vs Soul – What Are The Truly Spiritual Modalities?

Trauma and pain can happen on so many levels. At the most basic, superficial level, our physical bodies can experience pain and trauma that requires physical healing from medical doctors and holistic practices like Traditional Chinese Medicine. When you dive a bit deeper, you might experience pain and trauma mentally and emotionally. You might go to see a therapist or psychologist to work through the pain or try natural calming remedies like breathing techniques and essential oils as you recover. Truly spiritual modalities, however, can heal on the levels that build the foundation for the rest of our wellbeing: our energy and soul.

There is much debate about which modalities are truly effective for spiritual healing. There is no standard or set schools for shamans and healers – instead, they follow their own paths and hone their own unique skills. When it comes down to it, only you can determine which techniques work best for you on your healing journey. I’m only here to guide you by offering spiritual modalities that can support full healing.

What is a Mind Modality?

The phrase “mind over matter” is truly more than just a phrase – it’s reality. The powers of the mind are still way beyond what scientists have yet discovered, and we may never be able to put into words or prove through academic research just how much it can do. Bill Mckenna, the founder of the Cognomovement, is a shaman who regularly talks about how the mind is so powerful that it can literally manifest anything we want into reality.

He explains that our chakras and mind are interconnected, and by practicing our skills of releasing attachments, we can better gain control of our energy flows. Further, by controlling our energy better, we can manifest physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health. His techniques mainly rely on detaching ourselves from negative thoughts through tactile and visualization practices. schedule-intuitive-reading-with-paul-now

Mckenna focuses mainly on helping his clients discover what their fears are so that they can release them. By letting go of fear, we can clear our energy fields and make way for true health.

Overall, mind modalities focus on using the mind for overall healing by mentally gaining control of our energy flows.

Mind-Body Modalities

Many healing modalities that focus on the mind do so to heal the body. Even in Western medicine, many previously spiritual modalities are recommended in an effort to help heal the physical body. Practices like yoga, tai chi, and meditation are now used in less spiritual ways, washed of their true purposes as founded in Eastern practices. These superficial practices still, of course, help to calm the mind and do great things for the body – using stretching, breathing, and guided movements is certainly healthy and great for daily wellbeing. Regardless, when used in this way, these modalities are not truly spiritual because they do not penetrate deeper into our energy and soul.

What Are Soul Modalities?

Soul healing can be much more difficult to grasp than mind modalities because the concept of the soul is under dispute. Across schools of thought, the term “soul” can mean so many different things. For the sake of our topic, the soul is both within us and one with the Divine. By getting in touch with our souls, we get in touch with the Universe and with all living beings within it. Our souls hold our destinies. Trauma and barriers that exist on the level of the soul can be the most damaging and the most difficult to address.

Most people find it extremely difficult to remove all the other layers of their existence – their minds, bodies, emotions, etc. – in order to reach their souls. It can take years, even lifetimes, of a spiritual journey to fully get in touch with the soul. When we align every part of ourselves and our lives with our souls, we will experience true peace and raise our vibrations.

Because healing the soul is happening on the deepest levels of ourselves, the modalities can be much more challenging. They can take similar forms to other kinds of modalities, but they address the soul-level traumas and disturbances we are struggling with.

Energy is the Basis of All Truly Spiritual Modalities

Everything in the Universe is energy. Even physical objects are built at the smallest units on the energy and vibrations that stabilize our Universe. The atoms and molecules that create everything we see depend on energy. It’s no surprise, then, that our healing modalities must operate with this energy, working with it and opening up its flow so that any blockages and disturbances can melt away and we can realign ourselves with perfect existence. schedule-intuitive-reading-with-paul-now

A perfect example of this is Feng Shui, which is the ancient Chinese art of aligning the energy in ourselves with the energy of the Universe. Instead of placing ourselves and our objects in the environment in any way that we desire, we listen to the natural energy of nature of our Universe and arrange ourselves to fit into this natural flow.

To know if a method you are using for self-healing is a truly spiritual modality, assess whether it is helping you to ensure your energy is becoming realigned with the energy of the Universe on even the deepest levels so that you can access your higher self and enter full recovery.

Truly Spiritual Modalities to Try for Self-Healing

If you are interested in fully healing yourself from the inside out, you’ll need to commit to reaching deep into yourself to access your true self, the Divine, your soul. Many mind and body modalities can help bring you into the right place – you might have too many other traumas, pain, and disturbances affecting your body, mind, and emotions to start truly getting in touch with your soul.

Maybe you’ll need to relax your mind and body through your yoga practice before you can settle into a deep meditation, for example. Or maybe you’ve got a blocked energy flow that a practicioner of Traditional Chinese Medicine or Reiki can assist you in unblocking. Ultimately, though, you’ll need to end up using methods that align your soul’s energy with the Universe.

Truly spiritual modalities include things like deep prayer, sutras, and mantras. Prayers, such as the deeply beautiful Hindu prayers in the language of Sanskrit, literally bring you onto the wavelengths of the vibrations of the Universe. There are many mantras you can add to your practice that will help your soul heal, and you can pull already-existing ones or create your own for a fully personalized experience. Reading sutras can also guide us on our journey by helping us get in touch with ourselves and helping to make changes in our ways.


You are a beautiful Living Being filled with light and love, born from stardust. You are unlimited potential in every direction. With a focus on discipline, virtue, and your own goodness, you can become as expanded and liberated as you desire.

Pray for others and the Universe prays for us.



There is no “Other.” There is only you experiencing yourself.



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Paul tours the world lecturing on spiritual liberation. He lovingly offers intuitive readings, inspirational coaching, and illuminating courses to help others with self-discovery, decision-making, healing, and forgiveness. Book a session with Paul: HERE

Dangerous Sibling Relationships – How To Break The Mold And Be Free

The dynamic of codependent sibling relationships, especially where one plays an aggressive role and the other a depressive or passive role, can be profoundly toxic and damaging to both individuals involved. This pattern of interaction can establish a deeply ingrained cycle of behavior that is hard to break, often carrying significant emotional and psychological ramifications.

In such relationships, the aggressive sibling may exhibit controlling, domineering, or manipulative behavior, possibly as a means to cope with their own insecurities or unresolved issues. The depressive or passive sibling, on the other hand, might develop feelings of low self-esteem, helplessness, or worthlessness, often becoming overly reliant on the aggressive sibling for emotional support or validation.

This codependency creates an unhealthy balance, where the needs and behaviors of one sibling reinforce and perpetuate the harmful behavior of the other. It’s a cycle that can be difficult to break for several reasons:

Familiarity and Comfort: Despite the toxicity, the dynamic is familiar and can provide a perverse form of comfort. Both siblings may find the predictability of their roles, no matter how destructive, to be less intimidating than the uncertainty of change.

Fear of Confrontation or Change: Addressing the issues head-on can be daunting. It might involve facing painful truths, confronting deep-seated fears, or risking the loss of the relationship altogether.

Lack of Awareness: In some cases, siblings might not even recognize the codependency as problematic. They might view their dynamic as just how their relationship works, not realizing the emotional and psychological toll it takes on both of them.

Emotional Entanglement: The emotional ties between siblings can make it challenging to set boundaries or seek independence from each other. Feelings of guilt, obligation, or fear of abandonment can further complicate attempts to change the dynamic.

Breaking the pattern requires a conscious effort from both parties, often necessitating professional help such as therapy or counseling.

This process can involve:

Acknowledging the Problem: Recognizing the toxic dynamics and their effects on both siblings is a critical first step.

Seeking Professional Help: Therapy can provide a safe space to explore the roots of these behaviors, learn healthy coping mechanisms, and develop communication skills.

Setting Boundaries: Establishing clear boundaries is crucial for dismantling codependency. This might involve learning to say no, expressing needs and feelings openly, and taking responsibility for one’s own emotional wellbeing.

Fostering Independence: Encouraging personal growth and independence outside of the sibling relationship can help both individuals find fulfillment and confidence in themselves, reducing the need for codependency.

Though challenging, breaking free from a toxic codependent sibling relationship is essential for the emotional and psychological health of both individuals. With the right support and commitment to change, siblings can redefine their relationship into one that is healthy, supportive, and mutually beneficial.


Finally Breaking Free

Breaking free from toxic codependent sibling relationships can lead to significant benefits and positive outcomes for both individuals involved. While the process of breaking free can be challenging and fraught with emotional difficulties, the eventual results often include:

For the Individual

Improved Self-Esteem and Confidence: By stepping out of a toxic dynamic, individuals often begin to recognize their own worth and capabilities, leading to improved self-esteem and confidence. They start valuing their own needs and opinions, which can have a profound impact on all areas of their life.

Healthier Relationships: Learning to establish healthy boundaries in one sibling relationship can carry over into other relationships, leading to healthier interactions with friends, romantic partners, and colleagues. Individuals become better at communicating their needs and respecting others’ boundaries.

Increased Independence: Breaking free encourages personal growth and independence. Individuals learn to rely on themselves for their emotional well-being, making decisions based on their own desires and needs rather than out of obligation or fear of conflict.

Emotional Resilience: Facing and overcoming the challenges associated with changing or ending a toxic sibling relationship can foster emotional resilience. Individuals become more adept at handling stress and adversity.

Self-Discovery and Personal Growth: The process of breaking free often involves a significant amount of self-reflection and personal development. Individuals may discover new interests, values, and aspects of their identity that were previously overshadowed by the codependent relationship.

For the Sibling Relationship

Transformation to a Healthier Dynamic: In cases where the relationship is maintained, siblings may be able to transform their interaction into one that is healthier and more supportive. This often requires communication, forgiveness, and a mutual willingness to change.

Respect for Individuality: Breaking free from codependency allows both siblings to appreciate and respect each other’s individuality. They can interact as two independent individuals who choose to be in each other’s lives, rather than feeling obligated to fulfill predetermined roles.

Long-Term Outcomes

Better Mental and Emotional Health: Over time, individuals who break free from toxic sibling dynamics often experience significant improvements in their mental and emotional health. This includes reduced anxiety, depression, and stress levels.

Improved Life Satisfaction: With newfound independence, healthier relationships, and increased self-esteem, individuals often report higher overall life satisfaction. They may pursue goals and activities that they were previously hesitant to explore.

Stronger Support Systems: By fostering healthier relationships and expanding their social circles, individuals can build stronger, more supportive networks. This can provide a sense of belonging and support through life’s challenges.

It’s important to note that while the journey towards breaking free from a toxic codependent sibling relationship can be difficult, the benefits of doing so are profound and life-changing. Each individual’s journey will be unique, and the pace of progress will vary. Support from therapists, counselors, and support groups can be invaluable in navigating this transition.

When One Consciously Oppresses The Other

When one sibling uses toxic interpretations of religious, moral, feminist, or new-age ideologies to judge and oppress the other, it adds another layer of complexity to the already challenging dynamics of breaking free from a toxic codependent relationship. These ideologies, while potentially empowering and liberating in their healthy forms, can be weaponized to control, manipulate, and belittle, making the process of disentanglement and healing particularly intricate.

The Challenges

Moral and Ideological Guilt: The oppressed sibling might struggle with feelings of guilt or inadequacy, feeling they don’t measure up to the standards or ideals being imposed upon them. This guilt can be deeply rooted, given its association with ostensibly “higher” principles.

Confusion and Self-Doubt: The misuse of complex ideologies can lead to confusion and self-doubt about one’s own beliefs, values, and perceptions. Distinguishing between genuine moral or philosophical convictions and the distorted versions used for oppression can be challenging.

Isolation: If the oppressive sibling frames their judgments and actions within the context of a widely respected ideology, the oppressed sibling might feel isolated and misunderstood by those outside the relationship who might only see the surface-level adherence to these ideologies.

Emotional Manipulation: The oppressor may use their interpretation of these ideologies to justify emotional manipulation, claiming moral or intellectual superiority. This can further entrench the power imbalance within the relationship.

Strategies for Breaking Free and Healing

Seeking Knowledge and Understanding: Gaining a deeper, more nuanced understanding of the ideologies being used as tools of oppression can empower the oppressed sibling to challenge distortions and manipulations. Education can be a powerful tool in dismantling the perceived authority of the oppressor.

Professional Support: Counseling or therapy, especially with professionals experienced in dealing with ideologically driven abuse, can provide valuable support. They can help untangle the complex web of beliefs, emotions, and relationships, offering strategies for coping and healing.

Building a Support Network: Finding support from people outside the toxic dynamic—friends, mentors, or support groups who understand the complexity of such situations—can provide a sense of validation and belonging, mitigating feelings of isolation.

Establishing Boundaries: Setting clear boundaries with the oppressive sibling is crucial. This might involve limiting interactions, defining acceptable topics of conversation, or, in extreme cases, ceasing contact altogether. Boundary-setting is a critical step in reclaiming autonomy and self-worth.

Personal Development: Engaging in personal development activities that reinforce one’s own values, beliefs, and self-esteem can help counteract the effects of being judged and oppressed. This could include pursuing interests and hobbies, personal reflection, meditation, or spirituality that aligns with one’s own beliefs.

Advocacy and Education: For some, becoming an advocate or educator about the misuse of ideologies can be a powerful way to process their experiences and help others in similar situations. It can transform personal pain into collective healing and empowerment.

Breaking free from a toxic sibling relationship, especially when it involves the misuse of ideologies, requires courage, support, and self-reflection. It’s a process of not only distancing oneself from the toxic dynamic but also reclaiming and affirming one’s own identity, values, and beliefs. While challenging, the journey towards healing and autonomy can lead to profound personal growth and a more authentic, fulfilling life.

Your Feelings Are Valid

When one sibling refuses to allow the other the full expression and release of their emotions, especially when it conflicts with their ideology or false oppressive doctrines, it creates an environment where emotional suppression is normalized, and genuine communication is stifed. This form of emotional invalidation can be deeply harmful, leading to long-term psychological effects, including increased anxiety, depression, and a diminished sense of self-worth.

Understanding the Impact

Emotional Suppression: Being unable to express emotions freely can lead to the internalization of these emotions. Over time, this suppression can manifest as physical illness, severe stress, or mental health issues.

Loss of Authentic Self: Constantly having to hide or alter one’s emotional responses to fit another’s expectations can lead to a disconnection from one’s true self and feelings.

Relationship Deterioration: When genuine emotional expression is stifled, it prevents the development of a deep, meaningful connection between the siblings, leading to a superficial or strained relationship.

Enforcement of Power Dynamics: This behavior enforces unhealthy power dynamics within the relationship, where one sibling exerts control over the other’s emotional life, reinforcing dependency and submission.

Strategies for Coping and Healing

Acknowledgment and Validation: Acknowledging your feelings to yourself is a crucial first step. Validation can also come from friends, support groups, or therapists who recognize the legitimacy of your emotions and experiences.

Seeking Professional Help: Therapists can offer strategies for managing suppressed emotions and navigating complex family dynamics. They can also help in developing resilience and a stronger sense of self.

Building Emotional Literacy: Learning to identify, understand, and articulate your emotions can empower you to manage them more effectively. This includes recognizing the physical sensations associated with emotions and finding healthy outlets for expression.

Creating Safe Spaces for Expression: Finding or creating environments where emotional expression is supported and encouraged can provide relief. This might include supportive friend groups, online communities, or therapeutic settings.

Practicing Self-Care and Self-Compassion: Engaging in activities that promote well-being and offer a release for pent-up emotions is important. This can include exercise, art, journaling, or meditation.

Setting Boundaries: It may be necessary to set boundaries with the sibling who suppresses your emotional expression. This could mean limiting contact or explicitly stating what behaviors are unacceptable to you.

Developing Independence: Focusing on personal growth and independence can help mitigate the impact of a sibling’s attempts to suppress emotional expression. Pursuing personal interests, goals, and relationships outside of the sibling dynamic can reinforce one’s sense of self and right to their emotions.


Dealing with a sibling who refuses to allow full emotional expression is challenging, but it’s important to remember that your emotions are valid, regardless of how they are received by others. Working towards understanding and expressing your emotions in healthy ways, seeking supportive environments, and establishing boundaries are essential to preserving your emotional health and well-being.

The Shankara Oracle is a profound tool to help you come to know yourself deeply.

The Most Divine Cup Of Coffee On Earth

I believe I’ve cracked the code on turning my morning coffee into a tonic for The Gods. I’ve tested everything in this article top to bottom, testing ways to make java more enriching and healing. 

Because, let’s face it – this profoundly happy little bean is integral to our everyday dream.

Coffee is probiotic for the soul. It makes us feel wonderful – primarily due to its caffeine content, stimulating our brain and central nervous system. The caffeine blocks the action of adenosine, a neurotransmitter that promotes sleep and relaxation, thereby eradicating tiredness while increasing alertness. It’s a drug, but a delightful one.

Through our partnership with Coffee, we experience a boost in energy levels and mood, enhancing cognitive functions such as memory, concentration, and problem-solving. Moreover, coffee is rich in antioxidants and other helpful compounds that contribute to its mood-enhancing effects. 

The experience of drinking coffee not just about the caffeine but also about enjoying its rich aromas and flavors – quite the comforting ritual. It might only play second fiddle to Hot Cocoa. 

Many of us love a morning and afternoon Coffee because it boosts our sense of Self, brightens our perspectives, and helps us perform in ways that seem beyond our reach.

To some, coffee is divine magic, to others, it’s a mental-emotional necessity.

Cooking Coffee with the addition of saffron, cardamom, Ceylon cinnamon, MCT oil, ghee, Laird Superfood Creamer (which includes coconut and mushrooms), monk fruit sugar, and Motherwort (among other things) can transform a regular cup of Joe into a nourishing, nutrient-rich, flavorful beverage with numerous health benefits. 

Besides the reduced acidity, my heavens, my recipe can be quite miraculous, turning a mundane drippy drip into a profoundly healing elixir.

Supercharge Your Morning Mojo Elixir

Saffron – Contains antioxidants; may improve mood and treat depressive symptoms; has anti-inflammatory properties; may reduce appetite and aid in weight loss. Regular coffee does not provide these mood-enhancing and anti-inflammatory benefits.

Cardamom – Helps with digestive problems, including ulcers; has antimicrobial, antioxidant, and anti-inflammatory properties; may lower blood pressure; and enhances the flavor. Cardamom adds a unique flavor profile that regular coffee lacks – plus its health benefits.

Ceylon Cinnamon – Known for its anti-inflammatory, antioxidant, and antimicrobial effects; may help manage blood sugar levels; supports heart health. Adds a sweet and spicy flavor not found in regular coffee, along with metabolic benefits.

MCT Oil – Provides a quick source of energy; may help with weight loss by increasing fullness, fat loss, and ketone production; supports brain function. Regular coffee can provide an energy boost, but MCT oil adds a sustained energy source without the crash.

Ghee – Contains butyrate, an important short-chain fatty acid for gut health; rich in fat-soluble vitamins A, E, and D; may reduce inflammation; lactose and casein-free. Offers a rich, creamy texture and health benefits that black coffee lacks.

Laird Superfood Creamer – Typically includes coconut milk powder, Aquamin™ (calcium from marine algae), organic coconut sugar, organic extra virgin coconut oil, and mushroom extracts. Provides a good source of energy; it supports hydration and mineral intake due to Aquamin™; the mushrooms offer immune support; coconut-derived ingredients support heart health and provide medium-chain triglycerides (MCTs). And thankfully, it adds nutritional value and yummy creaminess without dairy, unlike regular coffee, which can be acidic and less nutrient-dense on its own.

Monk Fruit Sugar – Provides a natural, zero-calorie sweetness; does not affect blood sugar levels; is suitable for diabetics and those following a low-calorie or ketogenic diet. Sweetens without the negative effects of refined sugars, making it healthier than regular sugared coffee.

Overall Comparison to Regular Coffee

  • Flavor: This blend adds a rich, complex flavor profile that is far more nuanced than regular coffee.
  • Nutritional Value: Significantly higher due to the addition of several nutrient-rich ingredients.
  • Energy: Offers a more sustained energy release compared to the quick boost and potential crash from regular coffee.
  • Health Benefits: Far-reaching, including mental health support, anti-inflammatory effects, weight management support, and improved heart and gut health.
  • Acidity: The added ingredients help balance the coffee’s natural acidity, making it easier on the stomach and potentially reducing the risk of digestive discomfort.

Coffee made with these ingredients offers a wealth of health benefits, a unique flavor, and a more balanced energy boost compared to regular coffee, which primarily provides caffeine with its associated energy spike and potential acidity-related downsides.

Motherwort (tincture or raw herb)

Motherwort is like a hug from Mother Earth. If you feel jittery, anxious, angry, or nervous, Motherwort can soothe your soul and give your heart the much needed calmness, rest, and peacefulness it deserves. 

Incorporating Motherwort, either as a tincture or raw herb, into your coffee routine can transform an everyday ritual into a soothing, heart-nurturing experience. Motherwort, known scientifically as Leonurus cardiaca, has been used in traditional medicine across various cultures for its potential to soothe the nervous system and support heart health. 

When added to coffee, the bitter herbaceous notes of motherwort can complement the rich, robust flavors of the coffee, creating a complex beverage that delights the palate while offering calming benefits. This unique combination can serve as a morning or afternoon pick-me-up that not only energizes but also helps to manage stress and anxiety, promoting a sense of well-being and relaxation.

Beyond its flavor profile and calming properties, Motherwort’s potential heart health benefits make it a wonderful addition to your coffee ritual. It is believed to help in regulating heart rate and supporting cardiovascular health, making it a thoughtful choice for those looking to nurture their heart health through diet. Integrating motherwort into coffee could be particularly appealing for those who appreciate the ritualistic aspect of their coffee routine and are looking for ways to enhance this daily practice with natural, health-supportive herbs. 

By making this simple addition, coffee enthusiasts can enjoy their favorite beverage with an extra layer of nurturing care, turning a simple cup of coffee into a holistic experience that supports mental, emotional, and physical health.

Alkaline Versus Acidic Coffee

This refers to the pH level of the coffee. Regular coffee, which is naturally acidic (with a pH ranging typically from 4.85 to 5.10), can sometimes cause digestive discomfort and acid reflux or exacerbate symptoms for those with certain gastrointestinal conditions. 

Alkaline coffee, or coffee that has been adjusted to be less acidic can offer several benefits, especially for those sensitive to acidic foods and beverages.

The general purpose of seeking more alkaline foods and beverages, including coffee, is rooted in the concept of balancing the body’s pH levels. The human body naturally maintains a slightly alkaline pH of around 7.4. The modern diet, which can be high in processed foods, meat, and sugar, tends to be more acidic, potentially disrupting this balance. 

While the body is adept at maintaining pH balance, the theory suggests that consuming more alkaline foods can support overall health by reducing the burden on the body’s regulatory systems. 

Overall Benefits Of A More Alkaline Body

  • Supporting the body’s natural pH balance
  • Reducing chronic inflammation, which is linked to many diseases
  • Enhancing nutrient absorption and promoting detoxification
  • Potentially lowering the risk of chronic diseases such as hypertension, diabetes, arthritis, and cancer

Here are several more specific reasons why people might seek a more alkaline vs. acidic coffee and incorporate certain additions for health benefits:

  • Easier on the Digestive System: Less acidic coffee can reduce symptoms of acid reflux, heartburn, and indigestion, making it more comfortable for those with sensitive stomachs.
  • Better for Oral Health: Lower acidity helps protect tooth enamel from erosion, preserving oral health.
  • Improved Bone Health: A diet lower in acid is thought to reduce the leaching of calcium from the bones, potentially improving bone density.
  • Balanced Body pH: Although the body naturally regulates its pH, consuming less acidic foods and drinks can contribute to a more balanced internal environment.

More Magic For Your Coffee

To enhance health benefits, particularly for anti-inflammation, anti-cancer, and lowering cholesterol, consider incorporating these additions into your morning coffee routine:

Turmeric: Contains curcumin, a potent anti-inflammatory compound that has also been studied for its anti-cancer properties. Adding a little black pepper can enhance curcumin absorption.

Cocoa: Rich in antioxidants, cocoa can improve heart health by increasing nitric oxide levels in the blood and lowering blood pressure. It also has mood-enhancing benefits.

Cassia Cinnamon: In addition to Ceylon cinnamon, Cassia cinnamon can lower blood sugar levels and has anti-inflammatory properties.

Omega-3 Fatty Acid Supplements: While not added directly to coffee, taking omega-3 supplements in the morning can reduce inflammation and support heart health.

Flaxseed Oil: A source of alpha-linolenic acid (ALA), a type of omega-3 fatty acid, flaxseed oil can contribute to reduced inflammation and improved heart health.

Chia Seeds: Another good source of omega-3s, fiber, and antioxidants, contributing to heart health and reducing inflammation.

Ginger: Offers anti-inflammatory and antioxidant effects and may aid digestion. Ginger can also add a spicy kick to the coffee.

General Tips for Healthier Coffee

  • Choose Organic Coffee: Reduces exposure to pesticides and chemicals.
  • Limit Added Sugars: Use natural sweeteners like stevia or monk fruit, or minimize sweeteners altogether.
  • Avoid Artificial Creamers: Opt for natural creamers or plant-based alternatives without added sugars or unhealthy fats.

By incorporating these ingredients and following these tips, you can enjoy a morning coffee that not only tastes great but also contributes to your overall health, particularly in terms of reducing inflammation, potentially lowering the risk of cancer, and supporting heart health.

Cookin’ Your Coffee

When it comes to preparing coffee in a healthier way, the key factors often revolve around the method of brewing, the type of coffee used, and what is added to the coffee after brewing. Here are some considerations that can make your coffee consumption potentially healthier:

Brewing Method: Some research suggests that filtering coffee (using paper filters, for example) can reduce the amount of cafestol and kahweol, two compounds found in coffee oils, which may raise cholesterol levels. Therefore, methods like drip brewing, using a paper filter, or using an espresso machine that filters the coffee could be considered healthier than methods that do not filter these compounds out, like French press or Turkish coffee.

Coffee Type: Opting for organic coffee can minimize exposure to pesticides and chemicals used during the farming process. Additionally, choosing a quality coffee bean might also impact health benefits since the bean’s origin and processing method can affect the presence of beneficial antioxidants and other compounds.

Minimize Additives: Adding large amounts of sugar, syrups, or creamers can significantly increase the calorie and sugar content of your coffee, potentially negating its health benefits. Consider using natural sweeteners in moderation, low-fat or plant-based milk alternatives, or simply enjoying your coffee black to keep it as healthy as possible.

Water Quality: The water used to brew the coffee should be clean and free of impurities. Using filtered water can improve the taste of your coffee and reduce exposure to potential contaminants.

Moderation: Even the healthiest brewing method can be undermined by consuming too much coffee. Excessive caffeine intake can lead to nervousness, insomnia, an upset stomach, a fast heartbeat, or even muscle tremors in some people. It’s generally recommended to limit coffee consumption to about 3 to 4 cups per day (up to approximately 400 milligrams of caffeine) for most adults, but individual tolerance varies.

Cold Brew: Some people find cold brew coffee to be less acidic and easier on the stomach than hot brewed coffee. The lower acidity might be beneficial for those with acid reflux or sensitive stomachs.

Truly, the healthiest coffee for you personally can depend on your own health conditions, dietary needs, and how your body reacts to caffeine and other compounds found in coffee. If you have specific health concerns or conditions, consulting with a healthcare provider or a dietitian about your coffee consumption and preparation methods can be a good idea.

Java Spiritual Rituals

Incorporating coffee into spiritual rituals can be a unique and meaningful way to blend the physical pleasure of enjoying coffee with the deeper aspects of spiritual practice. Here are some ideas for integrating coffee into spiritual rituals that can add depth and significance to your daily routines or special ceremonies:

Coffee Meditation: Begin your day with a mindfulness meditation that revolves around your coffee. As you brew your coffee, focus on the process with full attention—observe the sounds, the aroma, and the visual changes. Once your coffee is ready, sit in a quiet space, hold the cup in your hands, feel its warmth, and slowly sip, fully immersing yourself in the experience. This practice can help cultivate gratitude and presence.

Gratitude Rituals: Use the time while drinking your coffee to reflect on what you are grateful for. You can write down three things you’re thankful for each day in a journal while enjoying your coffee. This practice can help start your day with a positive mindset and a heart full of gratitude.

Coffee Grounds Reading: Similar to tea leaf reading, coffee grounds can be used for divination. After enjoying a cup of Turkish coffee or any coffee that leaves sediment, swirl the cup, turn it upside down, and then read the patterns formed by the grounds. This can be a fun and introspective way to tap into your intuition or simply enjoy a moment of imagination and storytelling.

New Moon Coffee Ritual: On the night of a new moon, set intentions for the coming month over a cup of coffee. The new moon is a time for new beginnings and setting intentions. As you drink your coffee, visualize your goals and what you wish to manifest, infusing your intentions into the coffee with each sip.

Coffee Offering Ritual: If you have an altar or a sacred space, you can make a small offering of coffee to your spiritual guides, ancestors, or deities as a sign of respect and gratitude. This can be especially meaningful if coffee has cultural or spiritual significance in your traditions.

Coffee as a Community Ritual: Share a coffee ritual with friends or your spiritual community. This can be a powerful way to strengthen bonds, share stories, and support each other’s spiritual journeys. The act of sharing a cup of coffee can become a sacred practice of connection and community.

Seasonal Coffee Rituals: Align your coffee ritual with the changing seasons. For example, during the autumn equinox, you might reflect on themes of balance and gratitude while enjoying a spiced coffee blend. Each season offers unique themes and energies that you can reflect on and incorporate into your coffee ritual.

These rituals can turn the daily act of drinking coffee into a profound spiritual practice, helping to ground you in the present moment, connect with higher aspects of yourself, and bring a sense of sacredness to everyday life. Remember, the key to any spiritual ritual is the intention and mindfulness you bring to it.


Coffee, far more than a mere morning ritual, holds a heartwarming embrace that can gently lift our spirits, enhance our connections, and sprinkle a touch of joy into our daily lives. Its ability to boost mood, improve focus, and foster social interactions makes it a delightful companion in the journey of love and companionship. 

With the healing attributes of Ceylon cinnamon, Ghee, and the nurturing presence of Motherwort and Saffron, coffee weaves its way into our emotional and spiritual fabric, offering moments of reflection, creativity, and a deepened sense of Self. 

As you savor your next cup, let it be a sweet reminder of the simple pleasures that enriches your life – the laughter shared over steaming mugs, and the quiet moments of introspection that guide you back to love’s gentle warmth. 

Embrace the journey of mastering your Coffee and turning it into an Elixir Of The Gods. With each sip, enjoy the caffeine boost, but allow this humble bean plus a myriad of nutritive additions to inspire a deeper connection to the rhythm and whispers of your heart and soul.

The Ultimate Orgasm

The Ultimate Orgasm

Let’s all orgasm as often as possible, shall we? 

We are all looking for the ultimate, phantasmic cum-ination of our desires. We’re all pushing and grasping to be happy. And we love when our bodies experience release. 

We awake every day and venture to bed every day fantasizing about reaching a place of not only comfort and peace but ultimate pleasure.

I knew that the pleasure I was enjoying at the time was limited, so I kept digging.

The more and more I delved into spiritual practices, I would have moments that blew my mind, but it felt like the carrot was always 10 feet in front of me. I knew there were other realms and experiences to be achieved, but I also knew that my desire to achieve these things opposed the path I was embracing.

At the time, I was often consciously leaving my body and engaging in myriad spiritual activities – whereby my spirit was engaging with reality in ways that were not textbook. Other Beings were contacting me, I saw aliens from other dimensions, and I had a ridiculous amount of light coming through my hands, which was helpful to some – and alarming to others. I was a diamond in the rough.

My level of electricity was quite alarming, and I was a bit wild. While it wasn’t a time of awareness and decency (I was clearly a work in progress), I was earnest in seeking the highest good and the most vibrant light.

I met Amma, The Hugging Saint, in a tiny room in Cambridge, MA, where I immediately fell to the floor in worship. Later, I opened her retreats with playful, spiritual lectures. I studied the teachings of Chogyam Trungpa and Osho. At the time, I was a children’s TV show host and traveling comedian, and for years felt a conflict within me around being in the world while knowing what it was like to be around Amma – there was nothing more illuminating. 

I was itchin’ to evolve but I had a ways to go-  from Oversexed Comedic Yogi to Bearer Of Light. 

Tantric Sex

I was fascinated by the idea of channeling my energy rather than depleting it. While it took me years to achieve, I was later able to channel my sexual energy upwards from the root chakra through to the crown and beyond – all with orgasms at each chakra and without ejaculating. I loved the energy tantric sex gave me. Without the release, my body vibrated and attracted great success – and over time, my third eye burst open.

It’s better than pizza. 

While the intuition and psychic abilities that emerge are quite wonderful, they pale in comparison to the sense of divinity one can achieve through the process of moving the kundalini upwards in the body.

Given the tingling from each mini energy burst (orgasm) in the chakras as the kundalini rises to the crown, it’s something I’ve continued and appreciated throughout my whole life.

Even so, for a long while, I was still identifying with the body, not the All That Is.

I know that sounds a bit lofty, but it’s quite real – and yes, achievable.

We are continually seeking pleasure – and that’s a good thing. 

By seeking pleasure, we seek The Divine – possibly a transconditional reality – whereby, whatever is happening in our lives, regardless of the circumstances, we become present to joy of spirit and body – or we embody bliss. We know this is possible because our essence, our Being, our electromagnetic sets of memory impressions, have experienced it before, either in other realms or other lives. Or in parallel! 

I’m not talking about what happens in college when we experiment with our pinkies and various holes – I’m referring to other-worldly experiences.

We might believe that our memory of divine bliss involves the human body, but it doesn’t.

It’s incredible how each of us can fool ourselves.

The False Tantra

Let’s get into the mechanics of tantras.

The Kama Sutra, written by Vatsyayana Mallanaga, is primarily concerned with kama, one of the four aims of traditional human life in Hindu philosophy. It deals with desire, love, relationships, and sexual intercourse. While it is not based in the non-dualistic principles found in the ancient Advaita Vedanta or the Buddhist Noble truths, for a time, it became a manual for dualistic, holistic, if not, hedonistic living.

Tantras are a genre of religious scriptures found in Hinduism and Buddhism covering a wide range of topics, including philosophy, rituals, prayers, yogas, and styles of worship. 

The confusion between the word “tantra” and “tantric sex” stems from a combination of cultural misinterpretations, oversimplifications, influencer hype and misdirection, and the sensationalization around a tiny insignificant sexual discourse found in the outskirts of the more sacred traditions. In short, people in the west twisted the concept of Tantras because we prefer sex over enlightenment.

The Real Tantra

“Tantric yoga” focuses specifically on yogic techniques for spiritual growth that have nothing to do with sex. These techniques move the Qi (Chi) or Kundalini upward to heal our spirits and illuminate our souls.

Some call the kundalini a “sexual energy” – which is misleading. It’s energy – that’s it. Too many “Tantric sex” phonies are our there trying to convince you that their sex addiction is sacred – and it’s not. 

People who become involved in “tantric sex” cum to believe that sex is the most important part of that technology – but that’s the farthest thing from the truth. 

The most important aspect is the Qi – the life force. Our furry, moist, and erect parts have little or nothing to do with the sacred nature or results of the Qi’s movement throughout our systems.

Tantric Yoga deals with the breath and spirit beyond what we might call “pleasure.” This is the REAL TANTRA.

Today’s Tantra Teachers

There are many “tantra” teachers out there professing the embodiment of divine bliss through sex, sharing only the glittering and ejaculatory aspects of these ancient teachings, thereby creating karma for themselves – and all the while misleading you.

Pleasure can be seen in the Sanskrit word Ananda (Joy), which has an embedded illusory emotion, and in the transcendent form of pleasure – bliss, found in the Sanskrit word Paramananda. This points to a divine fulfillment on the path to illumination and enlightenment. 

In this sense, tantra or sacred practices that do not require the body’s fulfillment can be seen as phenomenal ways to embody pure, unrelenting paramananda. 

The sexual juices that flow from our bodies and the elation that results from our achievement of desires are tied to our bodies, not our spirits. After all, our desires are temporary and can only invite roller coasters of suffering.

Let’s Do Tantric Sex!

Tantric Sex occurs through mutual manual masturbation or consensual penetration. 

During the tantric act of intercourse (all sexual activity with a partner is intercourse – the interplay between two sets of energies), we use breath to move the kundalini up from the root chakra to the other chakras. 

Amid the intercourse, we imagine a specific colored light at each energy point, and through breath, we achieve not an externally manifested ejaculation, but a pleasurable energy release through each chakra. 

This, for a moment, can feel orgasmic – and it is. 

It’s a form of pleasure that feels ultimate and divine for a brief burst of time – but only because we tie our divine pleasure to the body, which is unnecessary. Pure Tantra does not require enmeshment with another soul – or their furry parts.

In fact, it’s far more illuminating if you can learn to move your kundalini up and down your spine through yoga and breath. In this way, you experience a less codependent healing and release in your chakras – without being bound to another. 

Many of today’s tantra teachers are ejaculating like race horses, and encouraging the same – as if that’s the whole point. It’s not.

Yes, tantra – sacred practices – are quite wonderful, but most tantric sex teachings fail to have integrity. They also require a lot of time – and who has that kinda time?  

Tantric sex has become yet another device that deters you from knowing who you are – like a dildo, rubber vagina, sex doll, or other mechanical and illusory devices used for personal pleasure. 

These things only add to the cycle of Samsara – and are often more confusing, debilitating, restrictive, and alienating than we might assume. 

How lonely do you have to be to buy batteries to fuel your bliss? 

Dive deeper and get to the root of your loneliness. Get up early, instead, and put your batteries in a flashlight, so you can find your way to a carpeted area of your home.

Now, get on the floor and start breathing deeply, meditating, and doing yoga. If your pants are always on fire, get into Kundalini Yoga. It’s phenomenal for unlocking everything related to loneliness, blocked emotions, the roots of trauma, overly kinky behavior, and the things that hold us back.

What Is Transconditional?

Even the momentary experiences of satisfying simple pleasures or mundane desires can invite enough joy to fool us into thinking that we’ve transcended something. Though, we have not.

We may have captured, for a moment, a spark of divine energy, but we have not embodied it. We may, for a time, have forgotten all that ails us, but we have not transcended it. 

By the way, I’m not saying do not masturbate, ejaculate, or orgasm in the traditional sense. I’m suggesting a better, more spiritualized, more energizing, and healthier way to engage your life force and all of your body’s related energies and requisite juices.

So, where is my orgasm? 

Hint: it has nothing to do with oral sex, penetration, or manual stimulation of the tip or clit.

What, then, is the ultimate tantra or technology that will illuminate me into a concaving, coalescing, explosive, wild state of release?

Consider the essence of your Being far beyond the physical and mental layers that you often mistake for your true Self. Explore deeper practices that help you detach from the superficial layers of reality. Seek unconditional joy – paramananda.

The quest for the ultimate tantra or technology is, in essence, a journey inward, a navigation through the layers of Self that leads to an explosive release not bound by conventional understandings of pleasure or satisfaction. It is about finding that core of stillness and unbounded ecstasy within, which does not depend on external stimuli – but is a natural state of Being. 

Dismantle your many layers of conditioning, expectation, and attachment that cloud your perception and hinder your ability to experience pure bliss. 

This is not a $50 workshop on Instagram – it’s a process that requires patience, dedication, and a willingness to embrace the unknown, ultimately leading to a state of being where happiness and fulfillment are not conditional but are intrinsic to your very essence.

When we move our kundalini upward through Sadhana (spiritual practices), we experience a serene, profound illumination whereby we can go through a whole day entrenched in divine bliss – loving all aspects that we encounter. This is your birthright.

The Spirituality Two-Step

We are all dancing around the spiritual practices that have been shared with us since the beginning of time. We quote gurus and masters, and we go back to buying Teslas and Rivians, which comprise the perfect embodiment of exactly what no one needs.

We might meditate or chant for a moment, but in the next moment, we’re drawn back into the whirlwind of consumer culture, captivated by the latest symbols of status that signify success in the material world. This juxtaposition highlights a fundamental tension within many of us: the desire to live spiritually fulfilling lives while navigating the demands and temptations of contemporary society.

The calling, then, is to engage with the world in a way that enriches rather than detracts from spiritual growth, using the insights and practices of ancient spiritual teachings and masters to navigate the complexities of modern life.

By consciously integrating spiritual principles into our daily lives, we inch closer to knowing who we are and what reality comprises.

But Wait – What About My Orgasm?

We are all obsessed with our orgasms, but truly, to move the kundalini upward in the body, without release, gives us the energy we need to embody a divine consciousness and become vessels of love and light throughout the day, week, month, year, or longer. 

Every spark we withhold and put to work for our betterment and the betterment of humanity dissolves our karma and gives us more resolute and everlasting joy.

In today’s world, where achieving the Big O can seem like a competitive sport, complete with its own commentary and instant replays, the ancient art of kundalini yoga and yogic breathing offer a less… climactic approach to ecstasy. 

While many are on the hunt for that explosive moment of joy, there exists a more sublime and, dare we say, electrifying way to channel that energy.

I promise you – once your energy is harnessed, the results are quite lovely and remarkable. You move through the day with extraordinary sparks of light and love. You resolve tension more quickly. You sense into other people’s feelings and positions with great empathy and awareness. You nurture more and think less. And you more easily access, allow, and release emotions to produce a more clear state of mind and heart. 

To the naysayers, I’ll add this: This process can be challenging and it’s not always perfect. Sometimes you feel the need to clean the pipes, so you do. I’m just suggesting there are far better ways to toss your energy pellets.

Capture All The Spark You Can!

Instead of letting the fireworks explode and fizzle out, then napping until the morning alarm goes off, gently coax your kundalini serpent up your spine, and teach it to climb like a skilled acrobat, all the while keeping the grand finale at bay. 

This isn’t about turning your back on fleeting pleasures; it’s about becoming a spiritual powerhouse – one who electro-magnifies and projects their essence through the day.

By rerouting your inner sparkles to light up your chakras, you’re not just hoarding joy – you’re becoming a mobile disco ball of divine consciousness. 

The next time you’re chasing the dragon of ephemeral, fantastical ecstasy, remember: 

Through the process of kundalini yoga and moving your consciousness and energy upward to the crown Chakra, you become a supernova – a pulsating, light-emanating, enduring, and stable cluster of stars.

The real party is not in your pants – it’s at the base of your spine, where it lights up your soul, dissolves your karma, and turns you into a beacon of love and light, emanating the pure essence that created The Cosmos.

The Difference Between Oracle Cards and Tarot Cards




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The Difference Between Oracle Cards and Tarot Cards

Divination, or the use of tools in the occult arts to connect with otherworldly knowledge, is most popularly identified in the use of oracle cards and tarot cards. If you were to glance over at a table where someone is offering a reading to another with the use of a card deck, it might be very difficult for you to tell the difference between oracle and tarot cards.

While it’s true that both types of cards are used very similarly on the surface, there are actually fundamental differences to each that play a huge role in how they can affect a reading and whether your situation would call for their use.

If you are seeking guidance from a psychic that uses divination, you’ll want to know exactly what the difference is between oracle cards and tarot cards before you make a decision about your reading. Let’s dive in!

The History of Using Cards for Divination

The use of card decks to glean insights beyond the immediate reach of knowledge is not a new practice at all. In fact, it is one of the oldest forms of divination that we know about in the history of psychic practices. Tarot cards, in fact, are so old that they originate from playing cards used as early as the 1300s.

In their earliest forms, they even still kept much of the structure and imagery that we identify today as playing cards, such as with the 4 sections (clubs, spades, diamonds, and hearts).

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But how did the use of these cards transition from gambling and play to fortune-telling? Humans have this incredible talent for recognizing patterns and getting in touch with our “gut” feelings. Attaching luck and superstition to the order and times in which certain cards turned up during play was not such a huge leap! Suddenly, people were pulling purpose and meaning from each card in the deck, and the original tarot card deck was born.

Over time, people began mixing the original playing cards with mythological and religious imagery, such as from the Catholic Church and Roman legends. In the 1900s, tarot cards became popularized again by the Rider-Waite-Smith deck, setting the stage and much of the standardized imagery and meanings that are still used today across the board in tarot cards. While the Rider-Waite-Smith deck is the standard, it didn’t stop various movements throughout the 90s, especially the Hippie movement and the New Age movement, from putting new spins on the tarot deck with different imagery and interpretations.

It wasn’t until after the tarot card deck had been the standard for hundreds of years that oracle cards came about. While oracle cards are a much younger form of divination, that doesn’t make them less powerful or helpful – just different!

The Structure of Tarot Cards vs. Oracle Cards

One of the biggest differences between tarot cards and oracle cards is that tarot cards have a set structure, or are at least much more standardized than oracle cards. Most decks consist of 78 cards. There are also decks you can get, though less popular, that have less. The 78 cards are broken down into 22 Major and 56 Minor Acana cards. Much like their origin – the playing card deck – tarot decks break down their Minor Acana cards into four suits and even keeps them numbered: Swords, Wands, Pentacles, and Cups. The meanings and imagery of each card also has stayed largely unchanged and standard across decks, meaning that someone practiced in reading tarot card decks can typically pick up any deck and read it well.

Even the use of tarot cards has a standard structure. Most often, tarot card readers will use the Celtic Cross practice, which is the set way one turns over and sets down the cards they draw in the sign of a cross on the table. This means that the reader does not only rely on the specific card they pull for meaning, but also on where the card is placed within the cross.

On the other hand, oracle cards have almost no structure, standard, set meaning, or even widely-accepted use. They also typically come in smaller decks and cover a wide range of themes. Anyone anywhere can create their own oracle cards, and it is often more of a personal spiritual journey to create or find oracle cards that speak to your own needs than picking up a tarot deck. While you can find a range of styles and themes for both, tarot cards will keep the same meanings for each set card, and oracle cards will have meanings and structures unique to that set.

For example, oracle cards can come in decks of any number with any structure. They may or may not use sections, suits, and numbers. More often, they’re a deck of cards with unique imagery on each card where the creator has decided how that specific deck should be interpreted. There is also no set way to pull the cards from the deck and read them!

The loose standards for the creation and use of these cards derive from their more recent origins in the free-flowing, individual-centric feelings of the modern ages. In fact, they came into play as tarot cards went out of style for a while before the 1900s and were made popular by a French fortune-teller, “Lenormand.” Like tarot cards, oracle cards can thank the Hippie and New Age movements for increasing popularity and continued use by diviners everywhere.

The Difference in Meanings Between Tarot and Oracle Cards

There is no easy way to explain for sure how oracle cards and tarot cards differ in meaning other than the fact that tarot card readers study a very specific set of interpretations and methods while oracle card users are not stuck in a system. Even if the themes of the tarot card decks you pick up are different — such as if you own a deck themed with nature and a deck themed with pop culture characters — you’ll ultimately be following the same structure and interpretation guidelines. If you choose to use oracle cards, you’ll follow the theme of the deck you’ve chosen and not any other exterior set of rules. You’ll typically receive a guidebook that helps you interpret that specific deck or oracle cards.

When it comes to interpretation, tarot cards can also be much more serious. They address all aspects of life as well as past, present, and future, and they will reveal all kinds of things whether they are negative, neutral, or positive. Oracle cards, on the other hand, tend to lean more toward positive and uplifting interpretations.

Oracle cards will also focus much more on “big picture” concepts than tarot cards. Tarot cards are much more intensive, with more cards and set interpretations, meaning that they can be used to get very specific and detailed readings. Oracle cards, on the other hand, are much more about capturing themes, feelings, and larger ideas that can guide the user towards a more general interpretation.

Should I Use Oracle Cards or Tarot Cards?

Which type of card deck — tarot or oracle — you choose will entirely depend on your goals. If you are looking for loose guidance that helps with self-growth and stays more positive, you might enjoy oracle cards much more. They’ll also take much less practice, time, and brain-power to learn and interpret. They’re great for beginners! Tarot cards will take time to learn and practice, and you’re much better off going to someone who understands them well for a reading. You’ll also want to make sure you’re open to hearing a much more in-depth and well-rounded reading from the cards.

There’s also no shame in using both! Many people choose to use oracle cards to open a session before diving into a more detailed reading with tarot cards. Oracle cards can help set the stage and provide a loose understanding of what the reading will be about, and then tarot cards can help further interpret.

What you choose to use for guidance on your journey is entirely up to you. I’ve even created my own deck, called The Personality Cards, which you can check out here!


You are a beautiful Living Being filled with light and love, born from stardust. You are unlimited potential in every direction. With a focus on discipline, virtue, and your own goodness, you can become as expanded and liberated as you desire.

Pray for others and the Universe prays for us.



There is no “Other.” There is only you experiencing yourself.


Meet Paul Wagner

Paul Wagner (Shri Krishna Kalesh) is an intuitive mystic, clairvoyant reader, and a loving life & business coach. He created “THE PERSONALITY CARDS,” a powerful Oracle-Tarot deck that’s helpful in life, love, and relationships.

He created The Shankara Oracle, a profound divination tool that includes 18 gemstones, a lavishly designed divination board, and over 300 penetrative oracle cards – all to help you heal to your core and illuminate your Being.

Paul studied with Lakota elders in the Pecos Wilderness, who nurtured his empathic abilities and taught him the sacred rituals. He has lived at ashrams with enlightened masters, including Amma, the Hugging Saint, for whom he’s delivered keynotes at Her worldwide events.

Paul tours the world lecturing on spiritual liberation. He lovingly offers intuitive readings, inspirational coaching, and illuminating courses to help others with self-discovery, decision-making, healing, and forgiveness. Book a session with Paul: HERE