How To Be An Effective Psychic: Staying Grounded and Practical

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How To Be An Effective, Grounded, Practical Psychic

Psychics have a tarnished name because of the reputation that they are scammy fortune tellers who take advantage of desperate or curious people in order to make a profit. These people do exist — they come off as hokey, disingenuous, and prod clients to give up information that will help them seem real and insightful. They often make very vague claims and offer universal advice, all while making it seem like their help is truly unique and special to that particular client. It’s because of this reputation that you’re here today: to learn how to be an effective psychic who comes off as grounded, practical, and real and offers advice that truly helps people improve their lives.

In order to become an effective, grounded, and practical psychic, we must first talk about what we don’t want. Then, we’ll need to identify the traits you need to hone and perfect and follow best practices for opening, conducting, and closing sessions.

Let’s Talk About What We Don’t Want

Clients go to psychics because there are problems they’re facing that no one else seems to be able to help them with. Getting advice, insights, and support from someone who has the ability to pull knowledge intuitively from the Universe is a great way to get over these barriers and start rectifying problems. In other words, clients are not there to be a source of income, to be taken advantage of, or to pump up your ego.

Many terrible psychics, whether they truly have the gift or they don’t, operate with a giant ego. They let their desires, needs, emotions, opinions, and thoughts get in the way of a helpful reading. Instead of serving others, they’re just helping themselves.

Unfortunately, I’ve only seen this trend grow as the once well-intentioned light-seekers of the New Age turned to narcissism and commercialism. Divine rights and practices and helpful spiritual tools have become twisted, appropriated, and emptied of their purpose. In their place is a bunch of people who all claim to connect with their higher selves in their yoga pants at a studio on Saturdays and take selfies with their instructors who shout “Namaste” from the mountain tops. This goes for psychics as well.

Teenage girls across America call themselves Wickens, adorn themselves with Satanic symbols, carry crystals in their backpacks, and claim to connect with spirits over their toy-store brand Ouija boards. To be spiritual and psychic has become an aesthetic, not a sacred and revered role meant to help us connect with the Universe.

If you are serious about helping others with your psychic readings, you need to be serious about how you approach your role as medium. Be honest with yourself: is your ego playing any part in this? Are you pursuing this role for an honorable purpose? Do you have what it takes to completely empty of yourself to make way for genuine and practical messages for your clients?

Good Traits to Have As a Psychic

If you have the ability to connect with beings and messages beyond our human plane and limited knowledge, then it’s likely you feel a very strong calling to bring that connection and those messages to others who desperately need it. The Universe has chosen you to be a messenger, a channel, which means you have an extremely important job. People who don’t take this job seriously enough are one of the reasons why psychics get such a bad rep.

To have psychic abilities is a privilege, and it’s in your power to conduct yourself properly so that you can genuinely help others. Here are some traits that you should have if you want to be the most effective psychic you can be:

Tune into Empathy

Many psychics are empaths, if not a lot of things. Empaths can deeply connect to other people, places, times, and objects on a level that goes beyond normal human ability. This sense that a psychic empath has with these connections can manifest in many different ways. They might have full-body experiences where they have first-hand experience of what the other person feels. Or, they might have physical reactions to other people’s emotions like an upset stomach. It can take years to fully understand this gift, how it manifests, and practice it in a way that can prove helpful to you and others.

Having the gift of empathy can play a huge role in your sessions. Deeply understanding what the other is feeling will help guide you in the way you seek and communicate messages. You might also be able to receive messages from the other side this way and have a better grasp of the message that you need to convey. You might even be able to answer clients’ questions on a more detailed level than other non-empath psychics can.

If you don’t have the gift of empathy on a psychic level, it’s still important to practice it on an emotional level. It’s extremely important for a psychic to be able to stay in touch with the client’s emotions throughout the session. Picking up emotional cues and reactions to specific parts of the reading, for example, can help alert you to the parts of your message that are most valuable, helpful, or personal to the client. With that knowledge, you can try to pry more into that subject to glean more information.

Free Yourself of Ego

At the same time, empaths and psychics can be even more vulnerable than usual to expanding egos. If you know you have a powerful skill that others don’t, it might inflate your sense of self and make you feel extra important. Being able to feel others’ emotions as well can make things feel very personal – you could end up making their emotions and feelings about yourself rather than using the knowledge to help them. It’s very important to not get caught up in yourself and your own feelings. As a practical, grounded psychic, you must stay lowly, humble, and free of self-service.

As a psychic, you are literally a medium between the client and the message. In order to effectively communicate the message in the way it’s intended, you must yourself become nonexistent. You must rid your mind and feelings of any biases, prejudices, influences, tendencies, and quirks. Putting your own spin on the message, taking it personally, applying it to your own situation, and more can all end up hurting the client and ruining the session.

The last thing you want to read in a review is something like, “I really think she has the psychic ability, but she just always ends up making the session about herself!”

Be Observant and Present

Freeing yourself of your ego and tuning into the session deeply also requires being very observant. Instead of worrying about yourself and your life, you need to be as connected as possible to the present. Being concerned with how the message might form over the course of the session, getting distracted, or even trying too hard to connect to the client can cause you to lose focus of the task at hand. You must take every thought, feeling, emotion, image, and gut feeling that comes along during the session for what it is and at the very second it hits you. You will be continuously receiving all kinds of signals and images, and it’s critical that you don’t even blink, so to speak. Any missed element could end up being a huge deal for the success of the reading.

Stay Open-Minded

Humans are natural pattern-lovers. We are always consciously and subconsciously looking for ways to connect things together to form patterns. In these efforts, we also end up casting out things that don’t fit into those patterns. Because of these tendencies, psychics who aren’t careful might end up completely misreading a message and a client.

To be a truly effective psychic, it’s essential that you stay open-minded to every single part of the messages being communicated. To dismiss an image, word, phrase, number, feeling, or anything else that comes to mind during a reading just because it doesn’t fit your current understanding of the narrative is to be entirely irresponsible. You may not be able to make sense of that message, but you have no idea if it has significant meaning to your client.

Stay open-minded about whatever the message might be, don’t count anything out, and make sure to be as open, honest, and communicative with your client as possible. If you don’t understand something, its likely that discussing it with your client can lead to a conversation that helps string the points together and create something truly meaningful.

Be Specific

To be grounded and practical, you must be specific. Remember how we were just complaining about those hokey fortune-tellers who have given us such a bad reputation? They’re not effective because they keep their messages extremely vague and universal, too scared to delve into detail for fear of showing off just how much they don’t know or can’t know to clients. To build trust with your clients and help them fully, you’ll need to stay specific in your readings.

Instead of using phrases like “I sense some trouble in your romantic life,” which could be true of practically everyone, try to dial in on exactly what kind of trouble that is. Maybe you’re getting the sense that both partners are too stubborn, or one won’t communicate, or that there are too many secrets. Of course, you might not be able to tell them exactly what the secret is, but that’s not your job anyway. Your job is to be effective and practical – your client must be able to walk away with a plan to better their life thanks to the insights you’ve provided.

How to Improve Your Sessions

Every psychic is different with their types and levels of abilities as well as their preferred ways of getting ready for sessions. You’ll need to keep working at these things over time to become very good at your job, and you might also find that the methods that once helped you are beginning to lose their effectiveness, so it’s time for a little soul-searching for new methods. Here are some ways to keep improving your sessions.

Clear the Energy In and Around You

Starting off, though, you’ll want to clear out both your energy and the energy of the space. Regardless of whether your session is in-person or over a call, the energy of your environment can play a huge role in how effective your readings are. Before you even think about getting in touch with your client, you’ll need to prepare yourself.

Meditation is the best way to begin. You should already have a daily practice that helps you on your own self-development journey. In addition, you’ll need a meditation practice that prepares you to connect with messages coming in from the client and the Universe. Many psychics find it helpful to have specific spiritual guides that they call upon, as these guides are the beings that help them connect to their psychic abilities and receive messages. Empty yourself of all your worries, doubts, and problems, tuck away your ego, and find complete silence and peace.

Once you start centering yourself, you can begin using a few favorite mantras or chants to clear the space. I personally like to use the “Om Lokaha Somastaha Sukino Bhavantu” mantra 13 times. I’ve also sometimes relied on “Shiva, Shivani, Shiva, Shivani,” repeating the chant 7 times. You might also like burning sage, utilizing cleansing sounds, and calling upon your guides to help make space for your session.

Begin Opening Your Heart, Mind, and Soul to Messages

Psychics who fully prepare for sessions will begin allowing messages to come in before they begin the official session. They’ll want to begin connecting with their clients on a spiritual level, allowing them to make themselves known. You might begin using your empathic abilities to glean insights into their states of mind, emotions, and spiritual barriers. You might also start receiving images that will prove to be important to your reading.

Take time before each session after you’ve cleared your energy and the space to really sit with the session coming your way. Start speaking to your spirit guides and thanking the Universe and the beings that you’ll be connecting with the reading. You can keep these prayers short and sweet, such as “Thank you, Eternal Consciousness, for allowing me to connect with all the light beings, souls, and ancestors that have messages for us today.” Set your intentions to be merely a humble channel in service of your client.

As you prepare, do what feels right to you. Take note of the images and messages coming in, and formulate a practice that will help you stay connected in this space. Maybe you’ll find it helpful to mindlessly play with something in your hands, to shuffle your tarot cards, and roll your crystals. Then, you might choose to begin the reading without the client. You can pull a few Oracle cards from your deck to start pulling meaning about the upcoming session.

Keep Engaging With the Client Throughout the Reading

All the traits we talked about earlier – being empathetic, staying observant and open-minded, freeing ourselves from ego, and being detailed – require that we keep in touch with the client at all times. Of course, there’s a lot going on during a session. It can be difficult to sort through all the feelings and messages, stay connected to our psychic abilities, and keep in touch with our clients all at the same time. This is a skill that is perfected with a lot of practice, commitment, and intention. But it is critical to being an effective psychic.

The key to a practical, grounded reading is to never lose ourselves to flighty, vague, and loose tendencies. We need to keep turning the messages we receive into information that is helpful, on target, and detailed. If we’re seeing repeated themes, we can’t just communicate those and move on. It’s our job to delve deep into those themes and help our clients explore them fully.

Make sure you get to understand your client’s intentions for their readings. Ask them to put forward any specific questions they have that they’re seeking answers to. Get used to being very articulate about the messages you’re channeling. Ensure that you’re always engaging the client with phrases like, “Does that have any significant meaning to you?” and “have you experienced something like what I’m describing?” Keeping the conversation open is what will keep it practical and effective for them.

Close With Practical Guidance

A session can be long and include a wide range of topics and messages. There might be a lot of light beings that were competing to speak that day! Ultimately, your goal with every session should be to wrap up with guidance that the client can use to move forward on their journey. Revisit those questions and intentions they had at the beginning of the session. Ask them if they feel that they’ve received helpful insights. Help them tie together the themes and messages in a way that offers answers and a way forward.

Don’t forget to end your session with gratitude to the client, encouragement, and an offer to further serve them whenever they need you. Make sure to also thank the Universe for allowing you to serve them today!

You are a beautiful Living Being filled with light and love, born from stardust. You are unlimited potential in every direction. With a focus on discipline, virtue, and your own goodness, you can become as expanded and liberated as you desire. Pray for others and the Universe prays for us.

I love to serve others and make the world lovelier. Learn about my services and let me know if I can help you. It’s always an honor to serve kind, honorable, and loving people like you.


There is no “Other.” There is only you experiencing yourself.


Meet Paul Wagner

Paul Wagner (Shri Krishna Kalesh) is an intuitive mystic, clairvoyant reader, and a loving life & business coach. He created “THE PERSONALITY CARDS,” a powerful Oracle-Tarot deck that’s helpful in life, love, and relationships.

He created The Shankara Oracle, a profound divination tool that includes 18 gemstones, a lavishly designed divination board, and over 300 penetrative oracle cards – all to help you heal to your core and illuminate your Being.

Paul studied with Lakota elders in the Pecos Wilderness, who nurtured his empathic abilities and taught him the sacred rituals. He has lived at ashrams with enlightened masters, including Amma, the Hugging Saint, for whom he’s delivered keynotes at Her worldwide events.

Paul tours the world lecturing on spiritual liberation. He lovingly offers intuitive readings, inspirational coaching, and illuminating courses to help others with self-discovery, decision-making, healing, and forgiveness. Book a session with Paul: HERE

Celebrity Readings & Coaching

Working With Celebrities & Why They Pay More

It can be quite exciting to work with a celebrity as their encouraging life or business coach. The thought of helping someone of such wealth and fame to shift their paradigms and become a brighter and more loving light in the world feels wonderful to consider. 

The famous folk I’ve worked with have largely been quite remarkable and lovely. Some dive deeply and find profound shifts within them – embodying a beautiful and illuminating rebirth, while others are too busy and can only skim the surface, either not seeking or not reaching the rebirth they desire.

Some of these amazingly popular people do everything they can to live a healed and peaceful life, while finding every way possible to give back to others. A few that I’ve coached have rebirthed as 100% philanthropic geniuses. God bless them for their inner work and the wonderful things they’re doing in the world.

There are also the deeply unhappy celebs who are so broken, misguided, and paranoid, they can barely fathom someone loving them or genuinely encouraging them without agenda. Some of them live within controlling family systems where they play puppet queen, while their families pull heart strings to manipulate them. Sadly, these types entrench themselves in personal drama and passive-aggressive theatricalities.

The most dramatic and alienated celebs might also have low self-esteem and self-worth born from what their families projected onto them over time, which deprives them of understanding how beautiful they are and how wonderful it is to work with them.

But, at times, these types tend to allow their paranoia to take over, prompting them to go into overreactive or DEFCON 5 mode, where they hate everybody – they break hearts & agreements – and play the victim. They might also become dangerously aggressive, even delusional, compounding their self-denial, narcissism, abusive nature, and brokenness to the point of nearly being unhealable. God bless these folks because it’s just tragic.

But our egos love drama! If they can’t source a positive identity, they will quickly choose a hateful one – just so that it has something to obsess over. We shouldn’t believe any of it – because the ego and mind are contrivances. We are not either of those things – we are so much more!

I’ve seen it all!

The life of a celebrity is often glamorized, but the reality is far more complex. While fame and fortune may seem appealing, celebrities’ pressures, challenges, and sociopathologies are unique and often overwhelming. That’s where my specialized coaching services come in.

The Celebrity Paradox:

Celebrities are, in many ways, like everyone else, but their lives are magnified and intensified. Their personal and business struggles are often played out in the public eye, their relationships are scrutinized, and their mistakes are amplified. This constant pressure can lead to emotional turmoil, strained relationships, and even mental health issues. Meanwhile, their egos are precious to them, preventing their self-inquiry, self-responsibility, and growth.

Additionally, celebrities often have a team of people around them who may not always have their best interests at heart. This can create a sense of isolation and distrust, making it difficult to form genuine connections.

And they’re often so caught up in talking and validating themselves that they cannot listen to valuable information, let alone truly absorb it. So deeply and darkly absorbed with their temporary selves and this candle-flicker of a short life, they miss out on so much – including going deeper. 

The Paradox of Celebrity Vulnerability:

Despite their outward confidence and success, celebrities are often deeply vulnerable. The pressure to maintain a perfect image, the fear of failure, and the isolation that comes with fame can create a breeding ground for insecurity and self-doubt. This vulnerability, while often masked by bravado, is a key factor in why many celebrities seek coaching. They crave a safe space to explore their fears, confront their flaws, and connect with their authentic selves.

The High Cost of Transformation:

Celebrities are often willing to pay a premium for coaching services because they understand the value of personal growth and transformation. They recognize that their success is not just about talent or luck, but also about mindset, resilience,and emotional intelligence. Investing in themselves is not just a luxury; it’s a necessity for navigating the complexities of their lives and careers.

The Importance of Confidentiality:

Confidentiality is paramount when working with celebrities. They need to trust that their deepest fears, insecurities, and challenges will remain private. This trust allows them to be vulnerable, open up about their struggles, and engage in the difficult work of self-reflection and change. Coaches who work with celebrities must uphold the highest ethical standards and maintain strict confidentiality to foster a safe and supportive environment.

The Impact of Coaching on a Celebrity’s Life and Career:

Effective coaching can have a transformative impact on a celebrity’s life and career. By helping them develop self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and resilience, coaching can empower celebrities to make better decisions, build healthier relationships, and overcome personal obstacles. This, in turn, can lead to greater success, fulfillment, and a lasting legacy that extends beyond fame and fortune.

I hope these additional sections enhance your article and provide valuable insights into the unique aspects of working with celebrities. Please let me know if you have any other questions or requests.

Why Celebrities Pay Higher Coaching Fees

Given these unique challenges, my coaching services for celebrities are tailored to address their specific needs. This involves a deeper level of engagement, more frequent communication, and a higher degree of sensitivity to their delicate situations.

Here are some of the reasons why my coaching services for celebrities come at a premium:

Intense Pressure: Celebrities face constant scrutiny from the media and the public. This can lead to stress, anxiety, and even depression. My coaching helps celebrities develop coping mechanisms and resilience to handle these pressures.

Complex Relationships: Celebrities often have complicated relationships with family, friends, and romantic partners. These relationships can be strained by fame, jealousy, and unrealistic expectations. My coaching helps celebrities navigate these complexities and build healthier relationships.

Unique Challenges: Celebrities face unique challenges that most people don’t have to deal with, such as stalkers, paparazzi, and online harassment. My coaching provides a safe space for celebrities to discuss these issues and develop strategies for dealing with them.

High Stakes: Celebrities often have much at stake, personally and professionally. A single misstep can easily damage their reputations, and a single misstep can derail their careers. My coaching helps celebrities make sound decisions and avoid unnecessary risks.

Intrusive Security Measures: Celebrities have security teams to protect them, but these measures can also create challenges and be mired in paranoia and delusional hatred. Security personnel may engage in invasive practices like hacking and surveillance, damaging relationships and creating unnecessary drama, harm, and stress. My coaching helps celebrities navigate these issues and establish boundaries with their security teams and with their paranoia – which often stems from their narcissism. 

Unrealistic Expectations and Entitlement: Some celebrities may flip on a dime and break agreements in a heartbeat, believing the world revolves around them. They may fail to invest in relationships, preferring worship over genuine connection. My coaching helps them understand the impact of their actions, take responsibility, and develop healthier behavior patterns.

Depending upon the scenario, some fancy island and jet owners quickly play the victim and cannot fathom taking any responsibility for their decisions, agreements, and personhood. It’s narcissism at its most exaggerated best.

Oh, The Tragedy!

One sad and damaged celebrity client could not handle any introspection or feedback because she was too busy hating her sisters, avoiding participating in her marriage, hiring and firing people, and failing to pay a young pregnant woman whom she agreed to hire, all the while propping herself up as some holy mystical fairy.

Her ego became so intrenched in this contrived new-age persona, she could not see what was true or false – and she couldn’t understand who her real friends were. She behaved like a runaway teenager, which is a tough identity to shake or heal. It takes TONS of work to get to the core of this broken identity. It all broke my heart, and I pray for her every day, but I took it all as an education. I sincerely hope she heals and develops self-love and integrity in her life.

As you might imagine, I don’t take on these types of people anymore. It’s too harmful and hurtful – and clearly not worth it.

How I Can Help:

I offer a comprehensive coaching program that addresses celebrities’ unique challenges, going beyond the surface-level issues of fame and fortune. My approach is both holistic and pragmatic, recognizing that celebrities often struggle with:

Ego Management: Fame can inflate egos, leading to unrealistic expectations, entitlement, and difficulty forming genuine connections. I help celebrities ground themselves, develop humility, and cultivate healthier relationships.

Emotional Volatility: Celebrity life’s emotional highs and lows can be destabilizing. I provide tools for emotional regulation, stress management, and cultivating inner peace.

Decision-Making: Celebrities often face high-stakes decisions with limited time and information. I help them develop critical thinking skills, assess risks, and make choices aligned with their values.

Relationship Dynamics: The relationships of celebrities are often complex and fraught with power imbalances. I help them establish healthy boundaries, communicate effectively, and navigate conflict with grace and integrity.

Spiritual Development: Many celebrities feel a spiritual void despite their outward success. I guide them on a journey of self-discovery, helping them connect with their authentic selves and find meaning beyond fame.

Some celebrities may resist introspection or shy away from taking responsibility for their actions. However, my approach is patient, compassionate, and persistent. Everyone, even the most seemingly difficult individuals, has the potential for growth and transformation.

For example, I once worked with a lovely, deep, and well-intentioned celebrity (and I continue to work with them) who was often unhappily entrenched in her ego and attitude, consumed by jealousy and resentment toward her friends, business manager, and a few members of her family. Through coaching, spiritual practices, and tough love, she broke down her defenses, allowed and confronted her shadow side, and began the journey towards self-awareness, self-responsibility, healing, and wholeness. 

She’s truly amazing, but she’s rare in the celebrity world. Gosh, I love her because she’s a real person who is always ready to do the real work. She follows through with every agreement she makes to me and herself. And WOASH – her personal and business ethics, earnestness, and offerings to the world are stunning!

My goal is not to change who you are, but to help you become the best version of yourself – and to help you offer things to the world that are worthy of your heart and goodness.

I believe true happiness and fulfillment come from within, not external validation. If you’re ready to embark on this journey of self-discovery and personal growth, I’m here to support you every step of the way.


If you’re a celebrity seeking guidance and support, please reach out. While my services are premium, investing in your spiritual and emotional well-being is priceless. Together, we can navigate the challenges of fame and create a fulfilling and meaningful life.

Remember: You don’t have to face these challenges alone. With the right support, humility, and effort, you can thrive in the spotlight and live a life that is true to yourself and your soul.